Married to an obsessive thinker?

[friendsoulmate]

Have you ever experienced a marriage to a spouse or engagement to a fiancee who had obsessive thoughts about problems at work or problems about life, in general? Would you want to end the relationship, because of it? Would you still love your spouse? Sometimes I verbalize these problem thoughts(mumble out-loud) when I am alone, but not when people are around and we are not in a conversation. If I talk about these problems with family members, they get confused and don't understand the problems I have at work(Accounting/Finance work), so I have to avoid talking about it. I don't believe I have some mental condition that needs help with a heavily advertised prescription drug. I have problems understanding complex problems at my job and giving the right answers quickly, when often times there isn't a "right" answer quoted anywhere in a rule book. It wouldn't help to talk to my boss about this, because she may think I am incompetent.

[sidehop]

Have you ever experienced a marriage to a spouse or engagement to a fiancee who had obsessive thoughts about problems at work or problems about life, in general?

 

Well, everyone has bad days, work or business.

 

Would you want to end the relationship, because of it? Would you still love your spouse?

 

I'd never consider ending based on such reason and of course I will still love her.

 

Sometimes I verbalize these problem thoughts(mumble out-loud) when I am alone, but not when people are around and we are not in a conversation. If I talk about these problems with family members, they get confused and don't understand the problems I have at work(Accounting/Finance work), so I have to avoid talking about it. I don't believe I have some mental condition that needs help with a heavily advertised prescription drug. I have problems understanding complex problems at my job and giving the right answers quickly, when often times there isn't a "right" answer quoted anywhere in a rule book. It wouldn't help to talk to my boss about this, because she may think I am incompetent.

 

So are you seeking answers to your problems at work that's related to your job? Are there co-workers that you can talk to regarding the issue?

[Joshb]

well me and my gf are thinkers, i tend to vocalize things more then her ..at least i think so..problems or stress..id hate to think that would be a deal breaker. Everyone goes through rough periods.