Piep Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 Hey everyone So there's this girl I started to like. We met just 2 weeks ago as she was in my project group in school, so we are going to spent alot of time with eachother the couple of months ahead. Anyway she is very beautifull and very nice. I've kind off developed a little crush and I'd like to do something about it. We already had a couple of drinks together but it was with our group. She laughed at my jokes and we made a little physical contact so I might have a chance. Anyway, naturally we all have eachother's phone numbers and the sort for the project. But what should my next step be? I was thinking of asking her to have a drink after our meeting or something. Waiting for response! Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted April 27, 2010 Share Posted April 27, 2010 I say that you ask her to go have a drink or just something casual and see what happens. I wouldnt make any overt statements that you have a crush on her but just go out and have some fun with her. Link to comment
easyguy Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 Funny... my girlfriend and I met through working on a class project as well (a class we are still in). The first date, though, went completely over my head as a date. I just asked her out for pizza for a late-night (well, 10:30pm) get-together, but just wanted to hang with her. That's basically what a date is, essentially. We didn't kiss until the third date. She started showing interest in me by sending me texts not related to the project. We all had each other's phone numbers, and we had been communicating via text messaging prior to her showing interest in me. Like I said before, there was some friendliness developing, and next thing you know, I asked her out the night of the pizza date whether she wanted to go for pizza or not... like, "Hey, want to get some pizza in a little bit?" We couldn't stop talking during the date, and next thing you know, we went on a second date not more than a week later. Then the third, et cetera. So, you just have to invite her out to hang - just you and her. Talk about things not related to class. She'll get the picture. Just ask her out like you would a friend if you wanted to get some coffee or something. Link to comment
Piep Posted April 28, 2010 Author Share Posted April 28, 2010 Yeah, I was thinking of asking her for a drink at the bar that's right next to our school after our next meeting, it'll be monday 11AM so might be a good idea to ask her to go for some coffee after we're finished. Link to comment
Piep Posted April 28, 2010 Author Share Posted April 28, 2010 Just the thing is we don't really know eachother yet. We had maybe 3 meetings and we have had a little chit chat but most of the talk was about our project and stuff. So maybe I should wait a little till we get to know eachother a bit or jump right in? Link to comment
easyguy Posted April 29, 2010 Share Posted April 29, 2010 Just the thing is we don't really know eachother yet. We had maybe 3 meetings and we have had a little chit chat but most of the talk was about our project and stuff. So maybe I should wait a little till we get to know eachother a bit or jump right in? Do what feels right to you. Link to comment
Piep Posted April 29, 2010 Author Share Posted April 29, 2010 Heyhey, small update. We had to shoot some stuff during class (I'm in media) And we decided to go for a quick drink, guess who was there? Right. Anyway she was with another friend of hers and we talked only a bit. I overheard her saying when I walked away: "He's a cool guy." After I was done with class I decided to text her asking if she was still there and up for another drink. I got this response: "Hey hey! We're still here but we are finishing our drinks and then we have to go. You can still come if you like though " Anyway what to make of it? Is it a rejection or something? Link to comment
Curious_Girl Posted April 29, 2010 Share Posted April 29, 2010 I got this response: "Hey hey! We're still here but we are finishing our drinks and then we have to go. You can still come if you like though " Anyway what to make of it? Is it a rejection or something? No, it's not a rejection. I'd say it's the opposite, she's interested and wants [wanted] you to go by. I think it'd be a good idea to text back something like, "Sorry, got caught up w/ filming, but I'd like to do it another time." Otherwise, she might think you are rejecting her. LOL - man, this stuff is complicated! Link to comment
Piep Posted May 1, 2010 Author Share Posted May 1, 2010 Okay, so what next? I just ask her to go for coffee after our meeting on monday? Link to comment
Curious_Girl Posted May 1, 2010 Share Posted May 1, 2010 Coffee sounds good, if you can get her alone (i.e. not a whole group thing). Maybe say something like, "Sorry I couldn't make it to XXX bar last week. Are you free for coffee now?" Hopefully, she won't invite anyone else along. I will be checking in to see how it goes! Link to comment
Piep Posted May 1, 2010 Author Share Posted May 1, 2010 Yeah, that's the hard part. Getting her alone. I think the most convenient way is after the meeting when we're leaving. Anyway atleast I opened the door to texting when I asked for another drink so I can always do that if this doesn't work out. ^^ Link to comment
easyguy Posted May 1, 2010 Share Posted May 1, 2010 Just don't ask her to go to an XXX bar and you'll be fine. Link to comment
Curious_Girl Posted May 1, 2010 Share Posted May 1, 2010 Just don't ask her to go to an XXX bar and you'll be fine. ooops! Link to comment
Piep Posted May 2, 2010 Author Share Posted May 2, 2010 Meh, turns out we will have our meeting at the bar already so, kinda weird to ask for coffee or something after XD. Link to comment
Curious_Girl Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 Meh, turns out we will have our meeting at the bar already so, kinda weird to ask for coffee or something after XD. Was that today? How did it go? Link to comment
Piep Posted May 3, 2010 Author Share Posted May 3, 2010 Not bad, not good. I've got a few signs of interest. For instance there was room all over the table and she grabbed a chair, and carried it to sit next to me. She also mentioned seeing me in town and stuff and asking where I went. Here come's the good/bad part. I mentioned to another dude that I was going to a party in club XXX (lol) tonight. She overheard us and asked about the party and said they would come also. She called her friends if they wanted to go to the party tonight. Well now my friends didn't want to go because lack of money. I texted her if she was going and she was like: "Hey! No were staying in tonight... See ya soon!" Then I texted: "We could still go together " to which she responds: "Haha, I'm sorry, I'm having friends over.." So yeah. Maybe I was too over eager or something, did I blew it? Link to comment
Curious_Girl Posted May 4, 2010 Share Posted May 4, 2010 there was room all over the table and she grabbed a chair, and carried it to sit next to me. This is very telling, IMHO. Good sign! You don't know each other that well, so there'd be no reason for her to do that if she wasn't interested. She overheard us and asked about the party and said they would come also. She called her friends if they wanted to go to the party tonight. Very good! Well now my friends didn't want to go because lack of money. I texted her if she was going and she was like: "Hey! No were staying in tonight... See ya soon!" Then I texted: "We could still go together " to which she responds: "Haha, I'm sorry, I'm having friends over.." Okay, I don't think this is bad. It is possible that she just wanted to go to the party and it wasn't about you at all. But it's also possible - in my opinion, more so - that her friends didn't want to go, and since you hadn't specifically invited her, she felt uncomfortable going on her own, assuming you'd provide company for her. IOW, she didn't want to put herself in an embarrassing situation (acting like it's a date when it's not). The wink at the end of your text makes it seem like a joke to me, like you were teasing her. That's the problem with text/email. I know you meant it, but she probably wasn't sure. So she treated it like a joke. What if she'd said, Great! And you were joking. She'd be mortified! But at the same time, she did give a reason why she couldn't go. Covering all her bases maybe? So yeah. Maybe I was too over eager or something, did I blew it? I don't think you blew it at all. Mind you, this is all from my perspective. It may be that she isn't interested, but if I thought that for sure, I would tell you. At this point, I think it's not totally clear either way. She also didn't want to ditch her friends for a guy, which is actually a nice quality. I don't think you've seemed overeager, so there's no need to worry about that. When will you see each other again? Link to comment
Piep Posted May 4, 2010 Author Share Posted May 4, 2010 I'll see her again next monday, or possibly in the weekend as she works in a bar I go to sometimes Link to comment
Curious_Girl Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 I'll see her again next monday, or possibly in the weekend as she works in a bar I go to sometimes Make it a definite possiblity. Maybe then you can suggest doing something after Monday's meeting w/o the whole gang being there. Link to comment
Piep Posted May 10, 2010 Author Share Posted May 10, 2010 Hey, small update. I didn't go out in the weekend cos I got sick Anyway today was our meeting and didn't get any alone time with her. One thing that did happen is she called me maybe 4 times during the day asking all sorts of questions where we should meet up what time etc, there are 9 people in the group so the fact she calls me for this is a good sign yes? Also we were designing a logo for the film and we asked her to check it out, when she did she kind of leaned on me to "get a better look" anyway that's all. We're having our next meeting tomorrow. Link to comment
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