Confused about the sudden breakup!

[miss_zarina]

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2 months and a week, and yesterday he broke up with me in the evening out of the blue, before this happened he had got kicked out of his home and beaten by his dad, which he was really angry and upset about and I comforted him and supported him before i had to leave and go home. He was okay with me and when i got home i was speaking to him on msn and everything was fine, after an hour of talking he suddenly said that he wanted to end things and was sorry, and he is in a bad situation at the moment and needs to sort out his life

 

I told him i would support him threw this and be there for him he wasnt having any of it, but he clearly needed me when it happened coz he came and wanted to talk to me about it and wanted me to stay with him for a while.

 

I just dont get why he has done this and i am really upset about it because I Love Him and dont want to lose him, i cant stop crying as i just miss him so much and everything between me and him was great and we were happy together, i just dont get why he ha done this. he said he didnt know if he wanted to be with me and just kept saying i dont know, when i said so this is over for good then, and he also told my mate the same thing.

 

Im really upset and confused, and help or advice would be helpful

 

Thanks

[orchidrose]

A lot of relationships end at the 2-3 month mark. It's long enough to know whether or not you see something long-term with your partner, and unfortunately, your boyfriend didn't. It's really tough, but sometimes incompatibility really is the main reason for the break-up, and there's nothing you could've done differently.

 

Besides, why be with a guy who doesn't want to be with you?

[SpeedingCars]

A lot of relationships end at the 2-3 month mark. It's long enough to know whether or not you see something long-term with your partner, and unfortunately, your boyfriend didn't. It's really tough, but sometimes incompatibility really is the main reason for the break-up, and there's nothing you could've done differently.

 

Besides, why be with a guy who doesn't want to be with you?

 

Exactly. Better to have lost him now at only 2-3 months than be with him a year down the road and have him break up with you.

 

I'm sorry for your loss though, sweetie. Give him space and don't think about "what if"s because it will wear you down.

[miss_zarina]

He told my best friend last week that he wanted to marry me he has always said this, and always says it infront of me too, we have been on and off due to his problems. But he seemed to want to stay with me i dont know why he has ended it

[orchidrose]

He told my best friend last week that he wanted to marry me he has always said this, and always says it infront of me too, we have been on and off due to his problems. But he seemed to want to stay with me i dont know why he has ended it

 

Just that first sentence goes to show you how mixed up this guy is. You've only been dating for 2 months, but you've been on and off? At 2 months, you should be in the honeymoon stage, believing that you're perfect for each other. Big red flag.

 

And then to bring out an even bigger one, he's telling your friends he wants to marry you. After 2 months. But he's so messed up that you guys can't even stay together.

 

Honey, again, I know it feels like it came out of nowhere and it's devestating, but you're better off without this guy.

[shessofly]

Just that first sentence goes to show you how mixed up this guy is. You've only been dating for 2 months, but you've been on and off? At 2 months, you should be in the honeymoon stage, believing that you're perfect for each other. Big red flag.

 

And then to bring out an even bigger one, he's telling your friends he wants to marry you. After 2 months. But he's so messed up that you guys can't even stay together.

 

Honey, again, I know it feels like it came out of nowhere and it's devestating, but you're better off without this guy.

 

i agree with this. an awful lot of drama for a 2 month relationship.

[miss_zarina]

I know he saw me today and completely blanked me and then i hear from people that hes saying hes so much happier being single and acting all hyper and stuff, i dont know i have helped him thru so much during these past 2 months and hes acting like i have done something terrible when all i did was stick by him thru the bad times and never gave up when i knew he had problems and would be a bit messed up.

[d_lilah]

I know he saw me today and completely blanked me and then i hear from people that hes saying hes so much happier being single and acting all hyper and stuff, i dont know i have helped him thru so much during these past 2 months and hes acting like i have done something terrible when all i did was stick by him thru the bad times and never gave up when i knew he had problems and would be a bit messed up.

 

Honey, welcome to the world of breakups. From my experience, this is how guys tend to act. He might have enjoyed being with you at the time, but, as they say, the grass is greener.

 

The only thing that you can do now is try and get through it. Whether it is two months or two years, you still had feelings for him, but it really doesn't seem like there is anything you can do. I was with my bf for a year and a half, and 4 months post breakup, I still don't understand what was, and is, going through his head, but now accept I never will know.

 

Boys are weird.

 

](*,)

[cho]

Same thing happened to me... dating for 2.5 months. Everything was great and I was having fun. He was initiating almost all the dates, took me out for Valentine's Day, introduced me to his friends/family, etc., then suddenly he didn't want to have a gf. I was really sad :sad: But now it's been almost 2 months with no contact (he hasn't tried to call or anything) and I'm ok. Still think about it a lot and wonder if he's going to call me...nothing I can do about it but move on...