Ex and I agreed NC, now 2 weeks later he keeps contacting me..advice, suggestions?

[wandererlust]

Ended it over commitment issues, I told him I could not be friends as it was too painful for me and if he did not want to be in a relationship to let me go and so he said he would not contact me again. I mailed him back the DVD he lent me so I did not have any excuses to get together again. That was 2 weeks ago. Saturday he texted me with a text that did not make sense, almost like it seemed like it was accidentally sent to me (or a fake out to get me to respond) so I ignored it. Later on in the evening he texted saying he was sorry to bother me and that he had a gift for my son if that was ok. It was around 10pm and he knew my son goes to bed around 8:30 or 9. I did not respond right away. After thinking about it for a bit, I sent him a response the next evening saying I was sorry for the delay, not trying to be rude and that it was nice about the gift though puzzling. I told him maybe he could leave it at our door during the week. I thought it was crappy for him to not want an attachment to me but to keep one to my son- they were not even that close. I wanted to keep NC as much as possible and not see him so hence my suggestion of dropping it off. He responded that it was birthday gift he forgot about (since March) and that he would leave at the door and asked how I was doing. I replied "great thanks" and that was it. Then again this morning he sent another text "do you know the power women hold?"- and I fell for this "teaser text" as I call it and asked what he was talking about. He proceeded to tell me about the homeless man in NYC that was stabbed while preventing a mugging and dies on the sidewalk. Not really sure how a woman's power relates to this... I again did not respond after this. Several hours later, he sent abother text just saying that this event happened the other day.

 

I will be honest, I do love him very much and would love to be with him, so I don't want to shut him out completely. I don't want to be a b**** or emotional or angry (even though I have these feelings) but I just don't understand his behavior. I think he misses me, sure, but I was very clear 2 weeks ago that I did not feel like I could be myself with just a freindship with him because my feelings for him were stronger and I could not go backwards. Should I reiterate my stance? Should it be done with a call or in writing? Having him pop back into my life again after a few weeks is definitely hindering my healing progress if there is really no hope for us to be together- maybe that is what I need to communicate to him. It's not that I don't want to be with him, but I can't keep doing this back and forth dance with him because of his confusion.

[Ms Darcy]

Ended it over commitment issues, I told him I could not be friends as it was too painful for me and if he did not want to be in a relationship to let me go ...

 

Having him pop back into my life again after a few weeks is definitely hindering my healing progress if there is really no hope for us to be together- maybe that is what I need to communicate to him. It's not that I don't want to be with him, but I can't keep doing this back and forth dance with him because of his confusion.

 

Priority number one is for you to heal. Tell him to leave you to heal and he should understand. If he keeps it up, block him.