Do good looking people really have it easier?

[Go Habs Go]

I have noticed this pattern in my observations as well. Do good looking people really have it easier? I believe they do. I have had shy crushes on many different, attractive girls in school. I remember many of them were conceited, like a princess, and they enjoyed and took advantage of the power trip from all of the extra attention given to them. This reminds me of a queen bee in a bee hive. Being physically attractive and strong=power to win at the dating game and mating game. I have observed this to be true in all of nature, including human nature.

 

Many attractive people are like that. There are some that are not, but when you're that good looking, it's hard to stay humble.

[chelsea13]

I agree to an extent. With good looking women, I don't think there's a middle ground with being approached. Either they're always approached, or never. Women in general don't have to do much work, but I think that's slowly starting to change. You're seeing more and more women approaching, as well as some men deciding to not even bother.

 

But I do agree that a shy man and a shy woman are not the same. A shy man is told to man up and change his ways, even if that's who he is. A shy woman is told that the right man will approach her. It's not right and it's quite offensive as a man, but it's just another double standard.

 

Is this very true? Without being too conceited, I'm quite pretty, but I never get approached. I get quite a lot of stares and sometimes guys will look at me with this smile on their faces, and sometimes, I can tell that guys thinks I'm attractive by the way they look at me but they lose interest VERY quickly. Perhaps once they find out about what a dude I am in personalities, then they got turned off. But yes, I never get hit on or anything as well. So the thing about how 'women don't need to do much work' never quite worked out for me, I never go to a party and just stand there and expect guys to come to me because that never happens. Maybe I haven't been to enough parties to judge by what I mean is in the past 21 years nothing like that has ever happened to me.

[Orlander]

maybe a lot of guys just assume you are not single. maybe the guys who hit on someone who is very attractive might not be the caliber of person you are interested in.

 

Define "what a dude I am in personalities"

[Go Habs Go]

Then you need to make the first move. If scenario A is not working, then you need to develop scenario B and go from there. Everyone has the ability to control their destiny in the dating world and women are no exception.

[Genuine Duck]

Of course good looking people have it easier. One of many example:

 

Handsome, shy, quiet guy tries to spark conversation with a girl: she thinks he's cute and gladly talks with him.

 

Ugly, shy, quiet guy tries to spark conversation with a girl: he's a creeper and the girl has no problems letting him or others behind his back know that.

[Go Habs Go]

Of course good looking people have it easier. One of many example:

 

Handsome, shy, quiet guy tries to spark conversation with a girl: she thinks he's cute and gladly talks with him.

 

Ugly, shy, quiet guy tries to spark conversation with a girl: he's a creeper and the girl has no problems letting him or others behind his back know that.

 

 

Did you read my original post? I gave one scenario that doesn't necessarily benefit good looking people. There's probably others as well.

[Genuine Duck]

Did you read my original post? I gave one scenario that doesn't necessarily benefit good looking people. There's probably others as well.

 

The exception does not prove the rule.

 

I'm not saying life is all candy and rainbows for good looking people, but to deny that they don't have multiple advantages in many areas of life (not just relationships) is pretty silly.

[ghost69]

most girls i talk to think i would have a gf at home or that i'm a player jerk and wouldn't even waste their time. once they get to know me better i usually get their number. it's mostly me making moves though. i intimidate most girls though to where i probably lose a lot of opportunity i didn't even know i had because they are scared to even show a signal.

[chelsea13]

Here where I live, it's the plain/below average people who find their other halves easier.... I walk down the streets and see plenty of very average couples happily in love, or so they seem.

[chelsea13]

maybe a lot of guys just assume you are not single. maybe the guys who hit on someone who is very attractive might not be the caliber of person you are interested in.

 

Define "what a dude I am in personalities"

 

But then I'm not so good looking to a point that people will assume that I'm taken. I think it's my personalities that I need to work on, I tend to be way too straightforward without knowing it and say things that would probably hurt a guy's ego.

 

What I meant was that, I have a guy's personalities, I like guy things and I can be a bit too matey sometimes. I'm also quite rowdy... What people usually say is, when they just look at me without knowing me - they would have thought that I was a ballet dancer, but once they get to know me, they would probably give me a soccer ball instead. I actually like this part of me though, I'm just not a girly girl at heart. I just don't think that most guys would find that attractive, that's all.

[xyzzzz]

But then I'm not so good looking to a point that people will assume that I'm taken. I think it's my personalities that I need to work on, I tend to be way too straightforward without knowing it and say things that would probably hurt a guy's ego.

 

Ha..My friend says her boyfriend thinks Im very good and I asked hmm?why?She said cuz Im straightforward and direct.

[xyzzzz]

You know..you are really damaged lol yeah there are guys assuming that an attractive girl must have a bf and chickened but there gotta be bold guys as well and they gotta approach you!Never been approached at all?I just can believe this happens on a pretty girl.Have you tried clubs??That's always the place I boost my ego hahaha..cuz like I only get one guy approaching me in daily life but I get 5 guys in clubs every night...

[chelsea13]

You know..you are really damaged lol yeah there are guys assuming that an attractive girl must have a bf and chickened but there gotta be bold guys as well and they gotta approach you!Never been approached at all?I just can believe this happens on a pretty girl.Have you tried clubs??That's always the place I boost my ego hahaha..cuz like I only get one guy approaching me in daily life but I get 5 guys in clubs every night...

 

You mean you can't believe this would happen to a pretty girl?

Well I'm not very interested in getting hit on in clubs, I like doing weird dances and I don't dress revealing... plus clubs are DARK, how can people see faces? Guys have told me that they might see a 'pretty' girl in the club but once they leave the club, then she looks like something else. Just saying...

But I know what you mean about ego boost, as much as I feel confident with who I am, I stil like compliments from people.

The truth is I have never been approached... whenever I see a guy staring at me I look away right away... I don't know why I do that.

How do I know I'm pretty is because guys would tell me that I am pretty, or at least hint it (indirectly but obviously) but then then they're never interested in me... I admit that some of them have girlfriends but even those who won't would not ask me out.

But still, I don't think I'm that good looking. I mean I project myself as a very pretty girl but I won't expect others to think so.

[xyzzzz]

It is indeed strange.People say you are pretty but you've never been approached..Not even by...(hmm..sorry if it sounds mean)..ugly/creepy guys? Next time when they are staring,smile back at them and see how things will go.Having said that I have exactly the same problem.I just look away cuz Im shy..lol Im shy and a lot of times I dunno how to react to guys!

Yesterday a pretty good looking guy wanted to give me a hi5 when I was passing him and I didnt responed!I really even wanted to ask him to club with me(cuz it's not very often that someone I find hot hit on me but turned out I kinda ignored him.Grrrr...

[chelsea13]

So it's considered hitting on you by wanting to give you a hi5?

Lol I dunno... what does it mean by approaching anyway? Some stranger randomly walk up to you?? Cos that has never happened.

As for creepy guys, some of them stare at me.

[CntJstSitArond]

People say personality matters more, that's what I hear a lot I mean, but I'm ugly and my personality sucks too. I used to be just shy, always had trouble making friends. I'm out of HS now and in community college and have no friends. I think my looks has a lot to do with this, though not everything. I just can't get over it. I really am not good at anything either and have nothing going on in my life (completely lost sitting at home). Anyway, I've become a pretty bitter person now. I'm just too shy... I feel like I've tried many times before to get friends, but I'm just too quiet/shy/not funny to be around. I don't like when family asks me for favors, I don't try to start conversations with people or continue them when people try talking to me (which doesn't happen alot).

I really think that people do treat you differently depending on the way you look. I have a noticeably asymmetric face thats kind of bony, my eyes look kindy lazy and lifeless. I can't imagine taking a girl out for some ice cream or anything like that. I think I'm an embarrassing looking date to be seen with. I think when you are better looking, people look at you in better light, you have more opportunities given to you. If you are ugly some people will want nothing to do with you and those opportunities for friendship or w/e kind of networking is closed on you right there. You can call those kind of people shallow and whatever, but that doesn't necessarily mean they will live unhappy lives, end up in hell or whatever. There is no punishment for the way they act, not saying there should be though. I dunno... today is just one of those days I'm reminded of how ugly I am.

[xyzzzz]

So it's considered hitting on you by wanting to give you a hi5?

Lol I dunno... what does it mean by approaching anyway? Some stranger randomly walk up to you?? Cos that has never happened.

As for creepy guys, some of them stare at me.

 

NO not hi5 that's just an example of me not know how to react to guys sometimes cuz im shy

[GoneCrazy]

Yes...good looking people are more likely to get approached by people for dating, get the job, get help from random people with small things. Actually i was watching a dateline show: what would you do ? Were they set up hidden cameras, and they set up actors and do situation and see how people would react if they would help out or not. One of the set up they had a bike chained and they had a blond cute girl cutting the chain, long story short she got help from people. Pretty good show they have a new episode this friday check it out if you can.

 

Also people who have good looks can use it as an easy ticket out of life meaning they marry rich people, a.k.a the gold diggers.

[jonny15]

Of course good looking people have it easy.

 

Besides being fowned after and having their pick of the litter in dating, they'are also respected and looked up to far more than ugly people.

[Cognitive_Canine]

most girls i talk to think i would have a gf at home or that i'm a player jerk and wouldn't even waste their time. once they get to know me better i usually get their number. it's mostly me making moves though. i intimidate most girls though to where i probably lose a lot of opportunity i didn't even know i had because they are scared to even show a signal.

 

Sometimes I get the feeling that people don't expect that much out of me personality wise. Like I get dirty looks before I even open my mouth because I've been analyzed, labeled, and filed away based on my looks.

 

I love the expressions they make when I start talking about really nerdy hobbies.

[Go Habs Go]

Sometimes I get the feeling that people don't expect that much out of me personality wise. Like I get dirty looks before I even open my mouth because I've been analyzed, labeled, and filed away based on my looks.

 

I love the expressions they make when I start talking about really nerdy hobbies.

 

 

I feel the same way. I think people assume I'm a player and womanize.

[Baily]

This question is almost laughable....do they have it easier? YES...more doors are open for them...thus more opportunities.

 

I see hot girls as nothing but problems.....they seem too full of themselves and as a guy I wouldn't want to date someone who was being checked out by every guy we ever see....that would get old.

 

I prefer to date and meet girls whom I'd say are a 6,7 or an 8.

 

 

My brother is someone whom is considered very attractive by females....he's got more women approaching him in one day than I do in over a 6 month period...so is it easier for him... YES...YES and YES! Am I jealous....(smiling) Yes! I'd take the looks any day...and twice on Saturday Night.

[Go Habs Go]

This question is almost laughable....do they have it easier? YES...more doors are open for them...thus more opportunities.

 

I see hot girls as nothing but problems.....they seem too full of themselves and as a guy I wouldn't want to date someone who was being checked out by every guy we ever see....that would get old.

 

I prefer to date and meet girls whom I'd say are a 6,7 or an 8.

 

 

My brother is someone whom is considered very attractive by females....he's got more women approaching him in one day than I do in over a 6 month period...so is it easier for him... YES...YES and YES! Am I jealous....(smiling) Yes! I'd take the looks any day...and twice on Saturday Night.

 

 

That's only one aspect of life. What being taken seriously by others? Getting approached by certain people? I've been approached myself, but many that do are the biggest headaches.

[Belle]

So the question is, do good looking people have it as easy as people seem to believe?

 

To a certain extent, yes. However in the dating world, it's not all it's cracked up to be for women. You have to be overly cautious with guys because more often than not they're not interested in who you are as a person but what they can get out of you to boost their ego. It's fine if you're superficial because men will throw money at you. But if you have character and are looking for someone of substance who takes you seriously, forget it. It seems like those guys are too intimidated to talk to you or assume you have a boyfriend when you're too busy just warding off the douchebag players.

 

Not that I'm bitter.

[Go Habs Go]

To a certain extent, yes. However in the dating world, it's not all it's cracked up to be for women. You have to be overly cautious with guys because more often than not they're not interested in who you are as a person but what they can get out of you to boost their ego. It's fine if you're superficial because men will throw money at you. But if you have character and are looking for someone of substance who takes you seriously, forget it. It seems like those guys are too intimidated to talk to you or assume you have a boyfriend when you're too busy just warding off the douchebag players.

 

Not that I'm bitter.

 

 

For men as well. I'm a security guard and work at a womens clothing store, so I have to interact with women regularly. Even if you're a good looking guy, there's women only looking for a hookup or only want you for your looks.

 

 

I just don't think it's as easy as people make it out to be.