soursobgirl Posted April 26, 2010 Share Posted April 26, 2010 My boyfriend who is 32 this year and I am 27. We have been together officially since September 2008. I have met his whole family - he has met mine. We have been on a overseas trip together. Throughout this time we have had a wave of problems. From his widow mother who cannot let go and gives him major guilt trips to my families divorce and my suicidal mother. We are both in therapy, me because I was abused as a child and have gone through periods of depression and my boyfriend who cannot handle the death of his father 7 years ago. I still have waves of depression and he is consitantly telling me why I am so upset with my life. I live with my grandpa who is 81 and my aunty who is 47 and I am not allowed to have friends over or even my boyfriend. All my friends have abandon me either because my boyfriend has scared them off with his erratic social behavior, he has social dysfunction. So alot of the time its either me at his house or us spending money out. He doesnt want to move out any time soon - we have plans to move to London together at the end of the year as both of us have European Passports. He said that there is no point moving in together for 7 months and it's a waste of money as we would have to find something with a short lease. He also said that he doesnt want to get married any time soon. This concerns me. I know we have had alot of problems but I thought someone who is 31 would want to settle down sometime and have a family. I think that also if he committed and wanted to move i with me it would solve my problem of being depressed at home ( not having to have people over, not much freedom etc) He said he wants to be with someone 4-5 years before he commits to ever after. I just worry sometimes that he is biding his time with me. I dont feel good enough for his family and he gets angry when I say that. Deep down I know his mother would have wanted him to settle down with someone who had money like his ex gf did but my family does not have much to offer. I am thinking maybe its time to end it. It seems that I a clutching at straws here. It always feels like his family is more important than mine. I think that if I saw my gf living in a crappy family situation I would want to rescue her from it not ask her all the time why she hates her life. Let me also let you know that my boyfriends mother has said I am not allowed to stay over, nor be alone in his room. When I go over its 3 of us on the couch watching tv. She chooses what to watch and we sit there til about 10.30pm when she goes to bed. We also dont have a sex life. He has erectile dysfunction and so that eliminates any chance of a quickie as he has to take medication etc. The more I think about it the more I think I should move on. Sorry for the long post. Link to comment
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