Lowest sex drive known to man.

[My3sStillRacing]

It's been about 3 years since I've had sex, and though I often think how fun it would be to have a one night stand or someone to have casual sex with, I always find a reason not to go through with it.

 

It's like sex doesn't interest me when the opportunity presents itself.. but when I think about it, it's a lot of fun.

 

I don't know if this is what you'd call a fear of intimacy, or what it is.. but I'd like to go through with it. Do you think if I do, it'll remind me how awesome it is and get my mojo back into full swing?

 

I'm 21... I feel like I am speaking as a 50 year old woman going through menopause.

 

Please help!

[Hurting85]

I've heard that sex is one of those things where the more often you have it, the more you want it. Maybe if you spend a little time one on one with yourself so you can start enjoying orgasms. I do that when I'm not feeling up to it for a while. It helps me.

 

As for fear of intimacy... you'd have to consider past sexual encounters. Did anything happen that scared you? Embarrassed you?

[FathomFear]

Have you consulted with a doctor about this? It's possible that you naturally have a low sex drive, but it's also possible that it's caused by psychological or physical ailments (such as depression).

[RedDress]

I've heard that sex is one of those things where the more often you have it, the more you want it.

I agree with this.

 

You are young, OP. I don't think you should be going around having one night stands just because you think you 'should' have a higher sex drive. That's just crazy.

 

I think you just haven't met someone that you've connected with. Have you had a bf that you liked, respected and felt attracted to in that time? If not, I wouldn't sweat it. For some women (like myself), sex drive starts in the mind... and when it comes back, watch out! It could just be that you haven't connected with anyone emotionally, so that desire isn't there.

 

One night stands aren't all they are cracked up to be, IMO. They leave you feeling more empty than you did before.

 

At least... that's MY experience.

[Cognitive_Canine]

It's been about 3 years since I've had sex, and though I often think how fun it would be to have a one night stand or someone to have casual sex with, I always find a reason not to go through with it.

 

It's like sex doesn't interest me when the opportunity presents itself.. but when I think about it, it's a lot of fun.

I don't know if this is what you'd call a fear of intimacy, or what it is.. but I'd like to go through with it. Do you think if I do, it'll remind me how awesome it is and get my mojo back into full swing?

 

I'm 21... I feel like I am speaking as a 50 year old woman going through menopause.

 

Please help!

 

I think it's because you haven't found a sound partner. I have a very high sex drive but I it won't trump my need for a trustworthy partner to share it with.

[Thx]

It's been about 3 years since I've had sex, and though I often think how fun it would be to have a one night stand or someone to have casual sex with, I always find a reason not to go through with it.

 

It's like sex doesn't interest me when the opportunity presents itself.. but when I think about it, it's a lot of fun.

 

I don't know if this is what you'd call a fear of intimacy, or what it is.. but I'd like to go through with it. Do you think if I do, it'll remind me how awesome it is and get my mojo back into full swing?

 

I'm 21... I feel like I am speaking as a 50 year old woman going through menopause.

 

Please help!

 

You know what?

 

You're 21, there is nothing wrong with what you say, not everyone has to be sex obsessed and relationship-driven even in these modern times, good for you!

 

Thx

[Rose21]

I have ALWAYS had an extremly high sex drive, always thought about it ever since I was even 9

 

Thankfully, I didn't do it until I was 18 and with my ex.

 

I have been with 2 people.

 

Although I have always thought about sex, loved it, (espec after I had it) I feel I could ONLY do it when I'm in a serious relationship.

 

I went through a little phase where I had friend's with benefits where up to 2nd base was involved (fingering etc) because I can't get off myself, and in SOME cases oral, but no intercourse, I didn't want it unless I was with someone no matter how much I CRAVED it. That ended, and than I just dealt without, well anything sexual, not even a kiss until I found my current boyfriend.

 

Sex is great, I'm a sex addict as my boyfriend calls it, but ONLY in a commited relationship! Otherwise, I couldn't have sex, and if it took 3 years for me to find a serious partner, well I guess there would be no sex.

 

Maybe that's how you are?

[Fudgie]

There's nothing wrong with having a low sex drive. I'm 20 and have a low drive. My boyfriend and I do make love, but it's not very often, because we both have low drives. But we're happy.

 

Having a low sex drive isn't a problem AS LONG AS YOU'RE HAPPY. If you're happy, then there's no problem. Don't feel bad just because many our age act like rabbits. That doesn't have to be you.

 

Are you on any medication? My low sex drive is caused by a combination of prescription meds that I take, but I wouldn't change it for the world...

[greywolf]

It's been about 3 years since I've had sex' date=' and though [b']I often think how fun it would be to have a one night stand or someone to have casual sex with, I always find a reason not to go through with it.[/b]

 

It's like sex doesn't interest me when the opportunity presents itself.. but when I think about it, it's a lot of fun.

 

I don't know if this is what you'd call a fear of intimacy, or what it is.. but I'd like to go through with it. Do you think if I do, it'll remind me how awesome it is and get my mojo back into full swing?

 

I'm 21... I feel like I am speaking as a 50 year old woman going through menopause.

 

Please help!

 

When I'm single I do the exact same thing. I think about how I'd love to have a one night stand, but it never happens because I never go through with it. I don't think it means you have a low sex drive. Thinking about having a one night stand must mean that you have some interest in it.

[My3sStillRacing]

Thanks everyone. I know I probably shouldn't worry, but I feel like a total weirdo sometimes.

 

I probably shouldn't compare myself to other people and their experiences either.. but I feel like something is missing out of my life, and I think a big part of it is intimacy. I miss the feeling of being wanted by someone. I miss the feeling of liking myself enough that I want myself to get out there and have fun.

 

I don't know if I'll try to break the spell or just go with the flow, but I do thank you for your input.