glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Just curious. Would you guys ever take back an ex that cheated on you? And what defines as cheating? Link to comment
civilservant Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, I wouldn't. Cheating is doing anything with another guy that they wouldn't do in front of me, pretty much. Link to comment
Hopelives Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, I would not (but I have and would never do so again). What Civil said. Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 NO!!! and i will never speak to them again, either. learned my lesson. Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 Did they end up cheating on you? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, I would not, and have not, as I was in that position at one time. The relationship would never be the same to me. Link to comment
DrKitten Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 I have. He fessed up the first time and I gave him another chance. Later he cheated on me again twice more but never told me until I confronted him after we broke up. I'm never doing that again. Physically, cheating to me is making out and everything beyond. Emotionally, it's carrying on an intimate, romantic interaction with someone else behind my back. Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 NO!!! and i will never speak to them again, either. learned my lesson. What happened? Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 I have. He fessed up the first time and I gave him another chance. Later he cheated on me again twice more but never told me until I confronted him after we broke up. I'm never doing that again. Physically, cheating to me is making out and everything beyond. Emotionally, it's carrying on an intimate, romantic interaction with someone else behind my back. Oh god. I am so sorry.. Link to comment
kyivish Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 I know I shouldn't, as I also know it would never be as good. But yes if she came back remorseful I'd give her a second chance. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, I got too much going on in my life than some pathetic loser. Cheating to me, is any type of physical intimate activity done in person (not online). Those indiscretions include kissing, oral, intercourse, etc. with either the opposite or same-sex gender. Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 I know I shouldn't, as I also know it would never be as good. But yes if she came back remorseful I'd give her a second chance. Why?? I don't know. I never gave a second chance to any one that cheated on me. Of course i later found out after breaking up they DID cheat on me so technically i wasn't aware. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Just curious. Would you guys ever take back an ex that cheated on you? And what defines as cheating? I took my ex back while we were in a relationship so I suppose yes. Same thing my boyfriend, CS said. Anything I wouldn't feel comfortable doing in front of him I would classify as cheating, be it physical or emotional. Link to comment
kyivish Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Why?? I don't know. I never gave a second chance to any one that cheated on me. Of course i later found out after breaking up they DID cheat on me so technically i wasn't aware. Cause when it was good it was really good and she's been the only one to show me that kind of affection Link to comment
HouseKitten Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 I really don't know. On the one hand, the logical part of me says 'hell no! I have too much self-respect!' But... it depends, for a start, on circumstances. Like actually sleeping with someone else - out the door. And if it was someone we'd had an issue about, like my ex had an ex that I hated him seeing, that would also be an instant out. But say if my current boyfriend kissed a girl, when he was drunk and she wasn't anyone important? I can't honestly say I wouldn't forgive him if if he was appropriately remorseful and contrite and made an effort to try and win me over. Link to comment
arcadefire Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 A cheating ex did beg me for days to take him back after I found out. I never gave him the chance, and I will never if that were to happen to me again (I sure hope not). Life is too short to waste more time on someone who chose to disrespect you from the start. Link to comment
xShannyx Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Yep and he did it again so now I've learned my lesson...never again! Link to comment
doiiiieeezie Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, that's a deal breaker for me... it's just the ultimate form of deception in my mind. Link to comment
civilservant Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 I took my ex back while we were in a relationship so I suppose yes. Uh huh, wouldn't take me back if I did though Not that I'd want you too Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 I took my ex back while we were in a relationship so I suppose yes. Same thing my boyfriend, CS said. Anything I wouldn't feel comfortable doing in front of him I would classify as cheating, be it physical or emotional. So you took back an ex? did it work out? Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, that's a deal breaker for me... it's just the ultimate form of deception in my mind. Yes I know. Its so HARD TO trust someone that cheated you. I think why bother.. the relationship, everything you worked for is all gone. Because of that one thing, he/she cheated on you. I think it's terrible and not worth it anyway, emotionally. Always being paranoid that they will do it again. Once a cheater, always a cheater Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 Cause when it was good it was really good and she's been the only one to show me that kind of affection Excuse me? You are really settling for less. I can't believe you just said that worries me... Link to comment
dragon lady Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, I would never. I spent too many years giving my ex second, third and fourth chances with various things (never cheating, I'll add). He always did them again. It's better to let go of someone who can't control themselves. A decent person won't do it the first time. Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 I really don't know. On the one hand, the logical part of me says 'hell no! I have too much self-respect!' But... it depends, for a start, on circumstances. Like actually sleeping with someone else - out the door. And if it was someone we'd had an issue about, like my ex had an ex that I hated him seeing, that would also be an instant out. But say if my current boyfriend kissed a girl, when he was drunk and she wasn't anyone important? I can't honestly say I wouldn't forgive him if if he was appropriately remorseful and contrite and made an effort to try and win me over. Uh huh I completely agree. Any SEXUAL contact such as sleeping, oral sex is A BIG NO. NO, its not even a question LOL. My ex was the same way, except she was his "friend" pftt. He was aware of how she felt for him and he told me he found her attractive. What a * * * * ? Who does that? He continued to hang out with her. I was so pissed off! Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 No, I would never. I spent too many years giving my ex second, third and fourth chances with various things (never cheating, I'll add). He always did them again. It's better to let go of someone who can't control themselves. A decent person won't do it the first time. I completely agree. Link to comment
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