glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 My ex, of 3 years.. Was very nasty and cold towards me when he dumped me. I loved him... With everything I had. I know I'm not perfect, but I believed we were okay. Our relationship. Guess I was wrong. turns out he was seeing this other girl behind my back and when I confronted him he blew up on me, saying terrible things like "I beeping hate you, I don't love you beep off you you beep, get the beep out of my life" For someone that despised cheating that was what hurt the most. Also the fact that he kept denying it.. We were friends but finding this out hurt. He kept blaming me that it was my fault, that I never opened up to him, that I made him miserable, that wasn't true I did open up and when I did he would ignore me or yell at me. It was cold and I was crushed. But I accepted it and knew I deserved better. Now, he decided to contact me. Got a voicemail from him saying "Britt we need to talk. Are you there? I need to talk to you" I was flabbergasted, angry! What the hell did he want?!? I haven't replied yet... I came here to get everyones advice. I am a fair person and I like to hear everyones side of the story. But this is different. He must think I am weak and that I am dying without him. Truth is I'm not. I feel relieved because my intuition kept tellin me something was wrong and I couldn't put my finger on it. I believe it's okay to cry, I gave myself the time to cry and that time is over. Time to live the good life I've been trying to seek for years, no more letting jerks run me and my life, no more crying and trying to change someone that won't ever change. It's time to respect myself and say no. Link to comment
waveseer Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Sounds like you should just say no, or the equivalent which is nothing. Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 All my friends find it hilarious that he's talking to me now. But one friend says "Three years. Three long Years, guys just don't let go of something like that, especially if you meant something to him and if you were his first love. He acted that way because he felt guilty and didn't know how to react so he pushed you away. That's just how guys are. They aren't like females. He still loves you, and you still love him but I think you should hear him out" I think that is complete nonsense. Link to comment
huskiesfan Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Given how he treated you, and the vagueness of his message, I would say nothing back. Let him live his own life, and live yours. You worked hard to get him out of your life, so don't readily let him back in. Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 Actually this was recently like this week. We were still friends though, instead a friend of his came and told me a few things that he indeed cheated on me. I confronted him and that was the result. Link to comment
huskiesfan Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Actually this was recently like this week. We were still friends though, instead a friend of his came and told me a few things that he indeed cheated on me. I confronted him and that was the result. He signed his own confession of guilt by reacting the way he did. He turned the focus onto you, and made you into the bad guy. I stand by what I said, no need to let him back in, it will be unhealthy in the long run. Link to comment
glucoze Posted April 25, 2010 Author Share Posted April 25, 2010 You are right lol. Just can't believe it. Really wish he didn't try to contact me. Link to comment
DN Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 What do you want from him - anything? Link to comment
RedDress Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 Yup. NC all the way. Don't even answer. It will just hurt you and tear the scab open. He probably has some little 'technicality' that he wants to share with you. Some reason that it's ok that he cheated. Some reason for you to think the guy who told you about the cheating was lying. It's all about making your ex feel better. To ease his guilty conscience. Don't bite. It'll only hurt YOU. Link to comment
Longview01 Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 All my friends find it hilarious that he's talking to me now. But one friend says "Three years. Three long Years, guys just don't let go of something like that, especially if you meant something to him and if you were his first love. He acted that way because he felt guilty and didn't know how to react so he pushed you away. That's just how guys are. They aren't like females. He still loves you, and you still love him but I think you should hear him out" I think that is complete nonsense. No offense but this friend has given you the worst advice. He cheated on you, he blamed you for the whole thing afterwards and mentally abused you. If I was you I wouldn't give him the time of day, if he feels guilty? GOOD and so he should. He lost you and HE has to live with that. NC, let him suffer like you did and live the rest of your life knowing you don't have to deal with him again. Link to comment
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