So much regret and hopelessness

[nectorofthegod]

I feel so much regret in my life, I'm 27 right now and I feel I've wasted SOOOOOOOOOOOO much of it. I'm stuck in a job that OK but not great, and now I come home feeling underwhelmed and under-appreciated. I'm so bored iwth life and I feel I have no options to improve it since I'm getting older by the day.

 

I don't have much of a social life and some terrible events in the past with my family and people who I trusted to look after my best interests but JUST betrayed me have left me feeling hollow and distant.

 

I've never followed my dreams and I've made some terrible decisions in regards to relationships. I wish I would of kissed the women of my dreams at university but I piked out and now I look at face-book and she's in a relationship and it hurts me to think what could of been.

 

My past relationship ended in violence with the girl I used to and still love and I haven't had any contact since about two years. This kills me as she is special to me but we just couldn't deal with each others little quirks. I just want her back in my life, but don't know if she would allow this.

 

At the moment I feel life is UN for filling, I'm craving my lost youth which I wish I could have two times over because I wasted so much of it making the wrong decisions. I'm lonely and sad and can't find something to pick me up except alcohol which makes me forget about the past and sleep.

 

I'm felling old, worn down and ugly at the moment. can any one help?

[JusticeLaw9]

You have life and hopefully you're healthy. Any and everything about you can be changed. Don't like the way you look, do something about it. Don't like your friends? Well, get some new ones. No girlfriend? Need one? Find one. New job too?? No problem, there's some kind of trade out there for everyone. But before you go around feeling helpless and hopeless, maybe you oughta take the time to be thankful for the things that you do have. Some are not so fortunate...

[Saffron_]

I feel so much regret in my life, I'm 27 right now and I feel I've wasted SOOOOOOOOOOOO much of it.

 

We all feel a lot of regret in our lives. I know I do. I've wasted a lot of opportunities but don't look at it as wasted time. Just jot it down to experience and learning.

 

I'm so bored iwth life and I feel I have no options to improve it since I'm getting older by the day.

 

We're all getting older by the day. And you're hardly old. You're the same age as me and I am NOT old!

 

My past relationship ended in violence with the girl I used to and still love and I haven't had any contact since about two years. This kills me as she is special to me but we just couldn't deal with each others little quirks. I just want her back in my life, but don't know if she would allow this.

 

Hmmm that kinda sends alarm bells ringing. Do you really wanna be with her or is it just a case of you wanting to be with someone rather than alone. And what's this about violence?!

 

I think a big part of changing is knowing what you wanna change. It's not like you just have a vague feeling of discontent. I mean you mentioned your job, which can be changed and loneliness (lack of friends) which can be changed. Don't waste another second craving your lost youth. That has to stop because what's been done has been done. There's no time machine to take you back. Picture yourself in 5 years time. Picture how your life would look if you had all the things you think you currently lack and imagine looking back to your 27 year old self and thinking, damn I'm glad I made some changes. Then think about your life 5 years in the future if everything stayed the same. That really will be a waste and I'll bet you'll be looking back craving all that could have been at 27 if only you'd done something.

[force]

Just think about what you really want in life and keep thinking until you come up with it, then go do it! You can accomplish whatever you want if you put your mind to it.

[asthesparrow]

Don't have any regrets, you won't get anywhere that way.

Start RIGHT NOW by doing things you won't regret, doing something that makes you happy, or before you know it, you will be 37 and saying the same thing, then 47, 57, etc. You know?

Do something different, right now. The smallest steps count. You can be who or what you want to be, you just have to actually try.

[Dako]

It must be tough to feel life has passed you by and your fate is set in stone.

 

I'd hate to be your age.

[catfeeder]

Nursing regrets wastes your future.