how to spot a rebound relationship?

[verisad]

as title.. what are the signs? thanks

 

and maybe stats too

[catfeeder]

First question to ask is, how long since the last relationship, and is the ex entirely out of the picture?

[verisad]

broke up mid jan. stopped seeing each other and it all ended for good mid feb. he started a relationship with her early march. and as for out of the picture... he doesnt text me. he has spread lies about me and says i cheated on him. last contact we had was i asked why he was lying about me and he sent me a rather nasty text which ended so * * * * you and goodbye. havent heard since.

[Fudgie]

I think going from one relationship to another can be a rebound, but not always...allow me to explain...

 

Sometimes relationships go bad LONG before they actually break up. There can be many reasons for this. So sometimes, a person can go from one relationship to another quickly and while I'm not so sure it's very healthy, it isn't always a rebound.

[catfeeder]

Whether other people would label someone's relationship a rebound or not is pretty irrelevant. A focus on that only keeps you stuck in a painful preoccupation. While it might be tempting to wonder what she's got that you don't, the most apparent answer would be someone who's obviously not very good for you.

 

You deserve to be with someone who will value and appreciate exactly who you are. Mind pretzels over someone who has mistreated you overlooks the fact that his vision was too limited to be your match. That doesn't speak of any deficiency in you, it speaks of his lack of compatibility. Shoot higher.