Would you go out with or marry someone with a disability?

[Seraphim]

As it says in the title.......would you share your life with someone with a disability?

[Go Habs Go]

I'm not shallow, so yes I would.

[Taikero]

It REALLY depends on the disability. I'm not sure I'm mature enough to handle a very serious one just yet in my life. I don't think I'd be able to get to the point I'd have to make that decision, however, with someone with a disability too much for me to handle.

[Dako]

I consider everyone disabled to some degree.

The level of degree is probably more troubling.

 

I can't read without glasses.

[newwave]

Probably. I have disabilities myself (arthritis, psoriasis, I wear glasses/contacts) so I would hate if someone eliminated me because of them.

[hockeyboy]

I'm not shallow, so yes I would.

 

I'm not shallow, and no I don't think I would.

 

Though I guess it depends on what the disability is...

[jahur]

I consider everyone disabled to some degree.

The level of degree is probably more troubling.

 

I can't read without glasses.

 

huzzah, huzzah, huzzah for you, no one is perfect! well said!

[XxJustMexX]

I don't see why not... they're people too aren't they...

[Go Habs Go]

I'm not shallow, and no I don't think I would.

 

Though I guess it depends on what the disability is...

 

 

That is being shallow because you're discriminating against a certain group of people.

[CaptainNapalm]

Maybe. I would date someone with a disability if they maintained a positive outlook on life. Unfortunately, many people with disabilities eventually break mentally and deal with many psychological issues as a result. People with a negative outlook on life as a result of a disability I would not date. Frankly put I don't do charity relationships, especially ones to last for the rest of my life. On the other hand, if I met someone with a disability that maintained a positive outlook on things, not only would I date them but admire them and grant them all the respect in the world.

[hockeyboy]

That is being shallow because you're discriminating against a certain group of people.

 

Nope.

 

So if I don't want to date a girl that is taller then me....because I don't like dating taller women, am I shallow?

 

Of course my reason for not dating someone w/ a disability wouldn't be "I don't like them."

[hockeyboy]

And again, this thread would probably be better off it were more clear.

 

What disabilitie(s)

[newwave]

I forgot to ask but what would people consider disabilities? I've asked people if they even consider my issues disabilities and they said no because I can live a normal life with them. What about mental disabilities?

[Go Habs Go]

So if I don't want to date a girl that is taller then me....because I don't like dating taller women, am I shallow?

 

 

Yes, because you're discriminating against a certain group.

[Fudgie]

It depends on the disability, honestly.

 

For example, I don't think I could date someone who had Asperger's. My brother has that and I struggled with his symptoms as a child, so I don't think it would be good for me to date someone who has that, because it may unearth some unpleasant memories for me.

I do have Aspie friends though...man, they're great! I just couldn't date them. Not attracted.

 

Physical disabilities...I would probably date someone with them too.

 

Mental disabilities? As in....a psychiatric disorder? As long as it was controlled and being maintained, then yes, probably. I have depression myself so I know how it feels!

That being said, I wouldn't date someone who was actively mentally ill and was highly irrational, combative, and just way too difficult to deal with. I've been there and it's not fun.

[hockeyboy]

Probably. I have disabilities myself (arthritis, psoriasis, I wear glasses/contacts) so I would hate if someone eliminated me because of them.

 

If these are the disabilities we're talking about, then yes, I would date someone with disabilities.

 

The question is to vague.

[hockeyboy]

Yes, because you're discriminating against a certain group.

 

so i guess there isn't a woman (or man) on the planet you wouldn't go on a date with.

 

Not wanting to go on a date with a woman who is taller is not discrimination.

[XxJustMexX]

The definition of shallow is "Lacking depth of intellect, emotion, or knowledge". So... not liking a particular group isn't necessarily "shallow" per se, but it is being close-minded.

[Fudgie]

I was thinking along the lines of diagnosable medical disorders, or birth defects, or other mental problems that somehow stop someone from living a normal life and being functional.

 

I think a lot of people's "issues" are what I would call baggage. I consider that to be different.

[Go Habs Go]

so i guess there isn't a woman (or man) on the planet you wouldn't go on a date with.

 

 

Right. Not wanting to date the same sex isn't discrimination because nature intended us to be attracted to the opposite sex. Just like homosexuals dating the same sex isn't discrimination, because nature intended for it to be that way.

 

 

Not wanting to go on a date with a woman who is taller is not discrimination.

 

 

Discrimination is a sociological term referring to the treatment taken toward or against a person of a certain group in consideration based solely on class or category

 

 

You wouldn't date someone because of their category(height), which is discrimination. It's a form of discrimination.

[Fudgie]

so i guess there isn't a woman (or man) on the planet you wouldn't go on a date with.

 

Not wanting to go on a date with a woman who is taller is not discrimination.

 

Well, it is actually...but I think everyone does that.

 

Everyone has an idea, or standard, that they hold to people that they date. It's different for everyone. For example, I don't date college football jocks at my school. Why? Because I don't like organized team sports and thus, it wouldn't be great for me to have a partner who is really into them. Plus, they practice a LOT. How would we hang out? Answer: we wouldn't.

 

Is it discrimination? Yes. "You're a meanie because you won't date jocks!" people may say...but I know I wouldn't be happy with one...I HATE sports! I just KNOW what makes me happy and I go with that. You can't date EVERYONE.

[newwave]

If these are the disabilities we're talking about, then yes, I would date someone with disabilities.

 

The question is to vague.

 

In my case the arthritis is so mild that no one would know unless I told them but there are days I have a harder time moving. Psoriasis is a little more advanced but generally speaking it gets better in the Summer.

[IphigeniaSaysHi]

It depends on the disability. Someone with a severe cognitive developmental disability, probably not. I really enjoy conversation and learning and if that person couldn't do that, I think I would be unhappy. Also, if they were unable to have sex I don't think I could be with them, but you never EVER know until you're faced with it.

 

I'd be open to many other things though.

[lostandhurt]

I think I know where this is coming from Vic,

I wonder the same thing about my son's future all the time.

 

To know him, is to love him.........

 

Lost

[Seraphim]

I think I know where this is coming from Vic,

I wonder the same thing about my son's future all the time.

 

To know him, is to love him.........

 

Lost

 

Ty.......the best post on this thread.