RestlessNights Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 I started dating this girl about 3 weeks ago. We met through the Doctor I used to visit as she was his health care tech/nurse. One day my Mom came back from an appointment and she told me that the tech thought I was cute. I happened to have an appointmet on her last day in the office, and I gave her my number. A week or so later, she came out with one of her gal friends to a party I had won at a local bar. Apparently, her friend noted it that night that I liked her before I had even asked her out one on one. Needless to say, I got her BBM address from her and we started texting. We hit it off and we finally decide to go out. Our first date got pushed back b/c she had to rush her son to the ER, but no worries. We went out the next week with a group, and I wound up spending the night (nothing happened besides snuggling/cuddling/talking). By the 3rd date, I finally made the move to kiss her and she reciprocated. I thought things were going really, REALLY well but it looks like I was wrong. She is a single mom of 2, and has full time school, a sick Dad, sick Grandmother, an ex husband, and other drama to deal with right now. She's also about 5 years old than I (I'm 25, she's 30). About a week ago, she tells me that she can't see me during the week b/c of all the responsibilities she has to accomplish. I tell her no problem, I will work with her schedule because I want to be with her. So, we go out last weekend twice (including me taking her and her 2 kids to the Yankees/Rangers game for the day) and I think things are going great. I text her on Monday morning and I tell her that she is the best thing that has happened to me in a long time. Later that afternoon, I get a novel of a text from her saying that she just cannot be in a serious relationship right now. She says that I deserve more/better than her. She claims that she still wants to date me, but she can't be serious with me right now b/c of all the things happening in her life at once. The claim is she is overwhelmed. She also has a lot of armor up b/c the last serious relationship she had was with her ex husband and it did not end amicably between husband and wife. I tried to tell her not to worry, that I wanted to be with her at her pace but that I wasn't going to be a casual hookup. We both admit that we have more than a friendship. I don't know what to do. We're supposed to go out tonight or Saturday. We have been texting all week still, so it isn't like she's blowing me off. However, it does seem like there's more of a "distance" between us since Monday. My dilemma is simple: Do I let my desire to be in a committed, serious relationship outweight my desire to be with her? I do honestly believe that something is there between her and I. Also, how do I try and reignite the spark that we had 3 weeks ago, as it seems like she's trying to pull away just b/c she's scared... Sorry to make my first post a novel, but I figured details were needed. Link to comment
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