is being pregnant an excuse....

[Fudgie]

So you do not believe in hormone or chemical imbalance?

 

Of course I do. I suffer from it myself.

 

I just don't believe that's a valid excuse to murder your husband.

[Mauxly]

You know? If there is intelligent design...why in the world would the creator set us up to drive our mates out of the house once we get pregnant?

 

Doesn't make sense.

 

I fear pregnancy, I'm such a weirdo PMSing that if pregnancy is SuperPMS...I'll drive babydaddy away in no time. Scary.

[Capricorn3]

Haha lucky! Do you workout a lot? Good health in general?

Never exercised or worked out in my entire life. My health in general is pretty bad and getting worse over time. Ugh. I'm probably just very lucky, or an alien, lol.

[Fudgie]

Well, I know that moms have the "nesting" instinct.

 

When my mom was pregnant with me, she went NUTS. Not really in a bad way, but from the second she was pregnant to when she had me, she was painting the ENTIRE house (huge house), stenciled pretty much the whole house, put in new windows, new carpet, furniture, etc. My dad says he's NEVER seen her do that much work!

 

I believe it was her "nesting" instinct kicking in to get ready for me.

 

I think a lot of women have this but it just manifests itself differently. They can becoming naggy and mean and perfectionists...they want everything to be PERFECT and ready for the baby. But it can drive people crazy....

[Seraphim]

Never exercised or worked out in my entire life. My health in general is pretty bad and getting worse over time. Ugh. I'm probably just very lucky, or an alien, lol.

 

Hahaha alien girl

[teabee]

Never exercised or worked out in my entire life. My health in general is pretty bad and getting worse over time. Ugh. I'm probably just very lucky, or an alien, lol.

 

*shuffles away from Capricorn and glares at her suspiciously*

[Seraphim]

*shuffles away from Capricorn and glares at her suspiciously*

 

yeah me too........giggle

[teabee]

Well, I know that moms have the "nesting" instinct.

 

When my mom was pregnant with me, she went NUTS. Not really in a bad way, but from the second she was pregnant to when she had me, she was painting the ENTIRE house (huge house), stenciled pretty much the whole house, put in new windows, new carpet, furniture, etc. My dad says he's NEVER seen her do that much work!

 

I believe it was her "nesting" instinct kicking in to get ready for me.

 

I think a lot of women have this but it just manifests itself differently. They can becoming naggy and mean and perfectionists...they want everything to be PERFECT and ready for the baby. But it can drive people crazy....

 

Actually my bf and I were laughing about the nesting instinct the other day. A lot of his friends have pregnant wives, and these men are going NUTS with the nesting instinct kicking in. All the wives suddenly want their husbands to build things, fix things, paint things, etc

[Capricorn3]

*shuffles away from Capricorn and glares at her suspiciously*

LOL, too funny! lol. Hey, if it's any consolation, I may not suffer PMS, but I get the other end of the scale - pain so bad I can't even get out of bed for 2 days. It leaves me curled up in a little ball wanting to die. Does that count?

[Seraphim]

Actually my bf and I were laughing about the nesting instinct the other day. A lot of his friends have pregnant wives, and these men are going NUTS with the nesting instinct kicking in. All the wives suddenly want their husbands to build things, fix things, paint things, etc

 

Yes, it happens.......

[Seraphim]

LOL, too funny! lol. Hey, if it's any consolation, I may not suffer PMS, but I get the other end of the scale - pain so bad I can't even get out of bed for 2 days. It leaves me curled up in a little ball wanting to die. Does that count?

 

Ok you are a normal woman we accept you back.......LOL

[metrogirl]

NO......

 

I was pregnant a few times and I never acted like that and if for whatever reason I was having a bad day, that is all it was.........a bad day. Not several days and certainly not for any long period of time.

[Capricorn3]

Ok you are a normal woman we accept you back.......LOL

Thank you kindly, lol.

[teabee]

LOL, too funny! lol. Hey, if it's any consolation, I may not suffer PMS, but I get the other end of the scale - pain so bad I can't even get out of bed for 2 days. It leaves me curled up in a little ball wanting to die. Does that count?

 

Ooh ouch! I take back my suspicious glares. I'd take hormone-crazy over 2 days of intense pain any day.

[teabee]

Ok you are a normal woman we accept you back.......LOL

 

haha! yes welcome back

[Mauxly]

Ooh ouch! I take back my suspicious glares. I'd take hormone-crazy over 2 days of intense pain any day.

 

Ahh I get both. Thank you very much endometriosis!

I call this thread completely hijacked.

 

I hope that the OP got what he needed out of it. Assuming OP is male, you do realize that the poor guy just got way more info than he probably ever wanted. Because, we all know how much men love it when we talk about our periods!

[teabee]

Ahh I get both. Thank you very much endometriosis!

I call this thread completely hijacked.

 

I hope that the OP got what he needed out of it. Assuming OP is male, you do realize that the poor guy just got way more info than he probably ever wanted. Because, we all know how much men love it when we talk about our periods!

 

Oops! haha, sorry OP

[newwave]

I have a friend who was mean when she was pregnant, especially to her boyfriend. I think part of it is because her boyfriend tricked her into getting pregnant (told her he had a vasectomy) and she resented that.

[mrmaximum]

Hmm!!!! I should try that! (kidding)

 

PMS is the best excuse. I'm not sure if it's an urban myth, but didn't a lady kill her hubby and then her defense was "I had PMS, I was hormonal, and couldn't control myself"? I believe she got the insanity plea okay.

 

What a joke.

 

And that's why I appreciate woman who take responsibility for their actions. yes, as karvala stated, hormones will make anyone, woman or male get ridicerous at times, but that still doesn't mean one simply get's a pass at whatever behavior suits them at the time. Guys...or I mean...MEN will understand that a pregnant woman may get...uncomfortable at times, (c'mon, a human growing inside you and being uncomfortable for 9 months?? NO ONE should be expected to be reasonable 100% of the time during something like THAT) but that doesn't mean we should be anyone's punching bag. And after reading Trxy's post, I agree. There is a difference between something one can control and one which cannot. That post didn't sound like a walk in the park whatsoever!! If it isn't okay for men to do to women, then the reciprocal also isn't acceptable.

[mrmaximum]

I have a friend who was mean when she was pregnant, especially to her boyfriend. I think part of it is because her boyfriend tricked her into getting pregnant (told her he had a vasectomy) and she resented that.

 

 

That....that....that is NOWHERE NEAR acceptable!!! That ...'guy'...I won't even finish that. Not kewl...not kewl at all!!!

[greywolf]

Never been pregnant, but when I first started hormonal birth control, I was completely moody for the first month. I was never mean, but I was definitely a drama queen lol.

[greywolf]

Hmm!!!! I should try that! (kidding)

 

PMS is the best excuse. I'm not sure if it's an urban myth, but didn't a lady kill her hubby and then her defense was "I had PMS, I was hormonal, and couldn't control myself"? I believe she got the insanity plea okay.

 

What a joke.

 

Imagine if a man killed his wife and he said, "I couldn't help it. Testosterone was raging through my body."

 

That'd never go through... >_> ah, double standards...

[mrmaximum]

Imagine if a man killed his wife and he said, "I couldn't help it. Testosterone was raging through my body."

 

That'd never go through... >_> ah, double standards...

 

Someone get's it. We will all have our ups and downs, I think pregnant woman should get more leeway due to the circumstances, but a free pass....I think not!

[BellaDonna]

for treating your S.O. poorly even if he is really trying to his best and no communication on your part

 

Pregnancy is definitely an altered state. It causes a lot of emotion and often physical discomfort.

 

However, it is NOT an excuse for a woman to abuse her partner verbally or otherwise. That is ridiculous and it should never be tolerated. I was pregnant with a very large baby that moved one of my ribs, and also my tailbone in the 3rd trimester, and also limited my breathing.... and I was still nice to my husband. He was also very supportive of me.

 

Couples should research the effects that pregnancy have on the mind and body. The first trimester is usually characterized by nausea and exhaustion and there are some things that are unsafe for a pregnant woman to do or to handle (for example, changing a littlerbox, etc) The 2nd trimester is usually the most pleasant- and the 3rd is when it gets very uncomfortable.

 

While new moms-to-be are going through the physical aspects of the pregnancy the dads-to-be also have a full plate of their own (assuming they are involved and supportive). They often have fears about being the family provider, fears and concerns about their partner, and new responsibilities when their partner is pregnant. It's not particularly easy for either party.

 

I lucked out because my husband was wonderful when I was pregnant. He said he was surprised at how pleasant I was too because he had heard nightmare stories.

[dangletsbang]

I'm in currently pregnant and in my 3rd trimester..and while I am very uncomfortable at times and a bit emotional/grumpy..I never take it out on my boyfriend..I have gotten snappy with him a few times but I almost always immediately feel bad about it and apologize. The only thing i've really noticed is I get my feelings hurt more easily and can cry at the drop of the hat..I feel really dramatic and irrational when I do but I honestly can't help it as much as I try not to feel a certain way.

 

Thankfully, my boyfriend is understanding and supportive..[except he just doesn't GET how I have no sex drive anymore]..I don't think I could've done this without him. But like it's been said..pregnancy takes a toll on the woman AND the man..a woman should never use pregnancy as an excuse to treat someone like crap.