lovehatething Posted April 22, 2010 Share Posted April 22, 2010 I need some real advice because all the other people I have asked about this give me stupid answers. I am in a frustrating relationship. Me and my fiance have been together for over four years and this past july he finally proposed. A month after becoming engaged, we moved in together. I am 20 and he is 24. Right now I am taking online courses and am not working. He brings home the money and supports both of us. He works as an IT (computers). For the past seven months we have been struggling with intimacy. I would like it to be a couple of times a week but he is content with once a month if that. I have tried absolutely everything and he is just never interested. We have talked about it and he says he is just as frustrated but i never see it. I have to ask for it and if we do do it, it lasts 10 mins and a lot of times he cant finish. He says that he has a lot on his mind and he is always tired. I feel like those are just excuses. He likes to remind me that a relationship is not all sex. I understand this but I have needs too. When we were first dating it was three times a day...now its rare and if it does happen its like he is doin it to shut me up. Afterwards there is no cuddling or kissing. He falls asleep and doesnt want me laying on him because he is hot! And kissing? I get pecks at night and in the morning. We dont ever have those deep, weak in the knees kisses anymore. I have even tried wearing sexy lingerie or touching him and i just get rejected. I don't know what to do anymore. I want to pull my hair out or cry my eyes out somtimes. This is taking a serious toll on my self esteem and my appetite is not decreasing at all. I need advice, how do i get him interested in it again? in me? I miss how he used to initiate it and actually enjoy making love. I am at the end of my rope. Please help!! Link to comment
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