dont know Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 So.. it has been about 9 days now since my ex girlfriend broke up with me. Said she felt more like we were best friends than in an actual relationship. I completely agreed with her, as we have been in LDR for about 1.5 years except for summers and holidays. She backed off for a few days before I could finally get a hold of her and had the break up conversation. Now, I pretty much was sure that this conversation would probably be the last time I would talk to her as a couple, and it was. Completely broke my heart and I just broke down inside (I'm sure you all have been there before and most of you are still in that phase). I didn't fight the break up, as she said she needed space and I agreed. The only thing I remained adamant about during the break up conversation was that I do not want to be best friends or just friends. I think that made it harder for her to break up with me, but I just wanted her to know that I wanted a romantic relationship and not a friendship. Was this wrong? What really killed me is that I was coming home for good in just a matter of 3-4 weeks... Our break up conversation lasted only about 10 minutes because I just didn't want to keep prodding at her if she wanted space and I still and always have loved her with all my heart. She seemed really upset with breaking up, but figured it was the right thing to do for us. I agreed with her that space was needed. Was this the right thing to do? To not delve deep into why she broke up, but just accept it? For the first few days of "NC" and being single, I kept checking her facebook before realizing that this just made me hurt a million times more. I noticed that she was going on a date or 2 with some random guy, or at least that is what I came to the conclusion of... So I finally had enough of it and I deleted her from facebook. Within about an hour of deleting her, I got a text from her asking why I deleted her. I wanted to respond to her, but I just didn't see how I could possibly make things better with responding, especially since I love this girl with all my heart and really want to make things better again when I get back to my hometown when college is done (that is in 2 weeks btw). So now it has been 9 days without speaking to her, and 3-4 since getting rid of all forms of communication with her. I feel like cutting her out of all these forms of communication and deleting her from fb is sending the wrong message. Was this the right thing to do to just ignore her text? Because I am getting sooooo many urges to contact her and see how she is doing, when I know that would only make things worse. Long post, I know. Thanks to those who are still reading. I realized that I kind of lost my confidence with her being in my life and I noticed that I am no where near the person I was AWAY FROM HER. I forgot what made me happy and focused more on making everyone else in my life happy. I want to tell her this and tell her I've been doing a lot of me time lately and it has put our relationship into perspective for me. I know I shouldn't do this and I shouldn't contact her for a while, but we had so many plans for this summer, we would talk about our futures all the time, and I honestly didn't see myself being with anyone else for the rest of my life. Her family LOVED me and same with my family and her as well. Nobody thought we were a bad couple and I just simply want her back in my life as my girl and nothing less. It makes it so much harder for me knowing she is already somewhat seeing another guy (for all i know, since I broke fb contact with her). I really want to call her and simply talk to her about everything even though it goes against everything this forum says. So should I wait a few weeks into summer before contacting her? Should I give her a call before I come home (in the next 2 weeks)? I know for a fact that I do not want to be just friends with her, and I want her back more than anything in the world. This feeling didn't just come about when she broke up with me either. We both knew that LDR was hurting us, but she and I both agreed (about a couple weeks before the break up) to work on it and give our relationship the love it deserved for when I got home. AHHHH what to do?? Link to comment
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