mfan Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 In the other thread "Lying in your dating profile", someone suggested that bust size should be on everyone's profile. I don't know about that happening anytime soon, but here's a few fields I've often wished for: 1. A "describe your parents" field. If someone will be your long term partner, they are probably interested in how well you get along with your parents and also whether they have a chance at pleasing them. 2. A "Noted family members" field. It's ridiculous that if someone has a child, they have to list their child as an "interest" (e.g. Reading, hiking, bowling, and my beautiful 5-year old daughter Caitlynne). There's never anyplace to put that on your profile. Add another text box so someone can describe their child!!! Anything else you would particularly like to see? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I wouldn't be a fan of "describe your parents" field. I have a bad relationship with both of my parents and I don't think that their unstable nature should reflect on me. Link to comment
orchidrose Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Number 2 kind of exists on most sites as a "Children?" box. That's where most people who have children can select that as an option. Number 1 is hilarious, and I'm sure it would drive most men away from me if I answered honestly. Link to comment
Cadence44 Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 After a particularly bad experience, I'd really like to see some variation on "did you just get out of a relationship?", "are you rebounding?" or even "are you on here after a breakup purely for the attention and ego boost?". Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I wouldn't be a fan of "describe your parents" field. I have a bad relationship with both of my parents and I don't think that their unstable nature should reflect on me. Yeah I agree. Can lead to judgements that may or may not be valid. Certainly something best left to later into a relationship/friendship. Link to comment
XxJustMexX Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 In the other thread "Lying in your dating profile", someone suggested that bust size should be on everyone's profile. Then I see it only fair for men to state their manhood size too... Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 After a particularly bad experience, I'd really like to see some variation on "did you just get out of a relationship?", "are you rebounding?" or even "are you on here after a breakup purely for the attention and ego boost?". Thing about that one is 90% would probably have to say YES! lol Okay maybe not that many but sure seems the popular place to instantly go after a break-up. (Yes, I did as well) Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Then I see it only fair for men to state their manhood size too... Have we really gotten to the point where all we care about is stats? Honestly, ideas like "post your manhood" or "post your bra" size leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Are we shopping or looking for partners? This is why I'd never be good at online dating. Post an accurate pic (not an accidental picture that makes you look different than how you look or a picture from 10 years ago before the baby weight). That should be all it takes to gauge attractiveness. Link to comment
Cadence44 Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Thing about that one is 90% would probably have to say YES! lol Okay maybe not that many but sure seems the popular place to instantly go after a break-up. (Yes, I did as well) Yeah, I understand why that is, but it's frustrating for those of us who have been single, worked on their baggage and are looking for something longer term. So just some advance notice of the potential hazards would be great. Also, if it was an option maybe people looking for the attention or rebound partner could search for one another and then everyone walks into it with open eyes. Link to comment
newwave Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 If bust size is added, then penis size should be too. I don't think either should be added though I am busty (but not fat). I guess the one I'd like to see added is a question asking what someone is really looking for. I think now on many sites they list a variation but should be more explicit. For instance many people don't really know the difference between dating and relationship questions because they are interchangeable. Same with questions saying friends first because this can vary. Yes, more questions about kids as well. There is a difference between a person with little kids and grown kids. I'd like to see more in depth questions about relationships and how long ago they were. That way I don't waste my time with a guy who got out of a bad one a few months ago and is still hurting. On the other hand guys looking for booty calls could be screened this way too. Maybe something asking more in depth questions about views on marriage. I've met a few guys who had different views on marriage and this was a problem. They either were not looking to marry or they were traditional in that they wanted a stay at home wife. Neither option pertains to me. Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Yeah, I understand why that is, but it's frustrating for those of us who have been single, worked on their baggage and are looking for something longer term. So just some advance notice of the potential hazards would be great. Also, if it was an option maybe people looking for the attention or rebound partner could search for one another and then everyone walks into it with open eyes. Yep I do understand. I agree. It would nice if people were simply honest. I mean all the boxes in the world are useless if people blur the answers just enough to get bites. Like the 'what are you looking for' ones. Seems like people check 'relationship' but really have no interest in one. They are upping the odds for dates and figure they can worm around that question later. I dunno. Maybe a 'willing to take a lie detector test on these questions' box. =p hehe Link to comment
testcase Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Hm I like newwaves suggestions about more in depth what they are looking for in a relationship. As far as bust size or any of that crap with proportions. Just post an accurate picture. My oldest pic is like 3-4 months and it is by no means my best but hey it's what I'd look like if you saw me know. Post a picture where they can see the whole body and imo thats good enough to make the judgment call. Link to comment
StrawberryYogurt Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Anything else you would particularly like to see? Yeah, how about a field called "What message boards do you post on, if any?". If they put down ENA, you know they are cool and to be contacted Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I declare and affirm under penalty of perjury that the statements made herein are true and correct to the best of my knowledge, information and belief. Link to comment
newwave Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Hm I like newwaves suggestions about more in depth what they are looking for in a relationship. Yeah, I've run into this problem so much when I did online dating. I'd meet a guy who said he wanted a relationship, but to him early sex meant a relationship (and he was only looking for a sexual relationship). Another guy said he wanted a long term relationship, but didn't want an engagement, marriage or living together. Then if that's the case, what exactly does he want? To me ltr equals all of the above. I am looking to marry, I don't want to waste my time with a guy not interested in that eventually. Link to comment
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