heartbroken Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 Hi Everyone, I posted on here just over a week ago, regarding my now ex boyfriend breaking up with me. i've been soooooooo devastated. it seemed out of the blue. he says he thinks he's bi polar. he built up normal relationship discussions as major fights in his mind. and ended something that i thought was absolutely amazing. one of the main things i'll mention is that during our 3 months together (we are both travelers in a foreign country), he had spoken about his ex. told me stories about how she was always mad at him. he stayed with her way longer than he should have. and he was never truly in love with her. that yes, he has been in love (with someone many years ago), so he knows how it feels, and he was never in love with her. he had to walk on eggshells around her. watch what he did and said. coudln't hang out with friends. etc. and how he loves how he can be 100% himself with me. he was also the one in our relationship to want to be exclusive, to talk about traveling together, to say he's falling in love with me. we weren't just an overseas fling. he talked about how we don't need to worry about when our visas are up, bcuz he can always get a visa for my country. i have now found out that he has msged his ex quite a bit (after breaking up with me - just over a week ago), apologizing for acting the way he did with her. he had the best time with her. and that there's no excuse for the lack of contact. he was just trying to get his photography career in place here, and get settled. that he could see how much he was hurting her, and they broke up. he never stopped loving her, and he thinks he still does. etc etc. she obv has no idea that he started having a very serious relationship (with ME) only a few days after they officially broke up. she knows NOTHING about me. and he's obv not going to tell her. i cannot believe he's doing this. and it really makes me want to tell her. she's believing his BS. i do not know this girl, obv. she is back in his home country as well. should i wash my hands clean of this situation - the truth will come out on it's own ? or should i be thinking "he CANNOT get away with doing this". and do something about it. if i do, i'd rather not have anyone know that it's me supplying the information to her (even her), bcuz he could just chalk it up to i'm some crazy girl who he had nothing to do with. i now know why he deleted me from facebook. so i couldn't add pics of him and i, and he could keep his charade going. i'm so hurt, angry, confused. everything. any suggestions on why he's done this, and what i should do ??? if you want more back story on this, you can search my previous post "going through a very hard breakup, any support would be amazing" it will explain the past three months in more detail. Link to comment
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