tigrLily Posted April 21, 2010 Share Posted April 21, 2010 I am a woman in a committed relationship with another woman. We've been together for 5 years now, now in our early 40's. Everything started out pretty hot - we had sex frequently, I was on top of the world. Since we got a house, things have really tapered down - hardly any sex at all. I have a sex drive, have taken to exploring my sexuality on my own. When my girlfriend finds evidence that I have masturbated, she makes me feel shame. She doesn't think it's 'natural', that I must be lacking in something in my life to feel like I need to do 'that'. Despite her shameful remarks, I do it anyway. It makes me feel good, makes me feel human. I do it when she is not home. I get nothing from her, physically. I think she feels unattractive, overweight. I would love to have some affection from her, and I tell her this. Still, a touch is very rare. I praise the heck out of it when I do get so much as a caress. Men masturbate, several times a week, right? Am I completely off my rocker here to start believing my girlfriend that I am a freak of nature/need help? I am to the point of looking outside of my relationship for the physical desires that I have. Please help. I love my girlfriend, but I don't know where to go from here. She loves it when I caress her and massage her muscles, but as soon as I try to get anywhere sexual I get nothing Link to comment
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