j416 Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 dating my gf for over 5 years. 19-24. bought a house for us and lived together for a little over a year. i had mayday's GIGS, i wasnt sure if i wanted to get married so young and she really did, pressuring me into it almost. anyways i got cold fit, and we ended up having a mutual breakup, both for different reasons. i was neglecting her, and she was always upset with me for small things. i realized i made a horrible mistake about a month after we broke up, i love this girl and would do anything to get her back, after we split, she moved back in with her family who live in a different city, and 3 weeks later she started dating this new guy, who she is still currently with. I found this forum a little late, this is what i have done currently. -talked for weeks after we split, talking about hooking up (mutually) (mid Oct.) went n\c or very l\c from here on. -i found out she had a boyfriend, said some nasty things. (mid Nov.) -sent her a teddy bear and flowers for Christmas, -went to try to reconcile \ stay with friends (she didn't want to meet cause it would have been to hard she said) (early Jan) -sent her a letter, and got shutdown hard. (Feb 2nd.) went n\c after feb 2nd. then all of a sudden out of nowhere, after i return home from mexico mid march, she sends me a text message asking me how my trip was. (so she's been checking my facebook) i didnt say much and tried not to ask her much about herself. making it seem like im better off now and happy. not rude, but just not carrying the conversation, which she kept it going for a while. then n\c until 2 weeks ago when i was on facebook and i sent her a message just to see if she'd respond. she responded right away and we talked for about an hour just catching up on everything. she was asking about some current things in my life and said that i'm looking good. (so again she's checking facebook and checking on me.) i heard from a mutual friend that her bf wanted her to move in with him and she declined, and it originally sounded like they might split, but they are still together so im not to sure. she's scared of being alone, so i dont know. we had a great thing together with ups and downs like everyone else, i wasnt making the compromises that i should have been making to keep her happy. i really know what i need to do differently now. how can i get her thinking about me again, and show her that im different. She even asked our mutual friend if i seem like i have changed? should i stay l\c? what are the appropriate steps i could do? Link to comment
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