Is it possible they are swingers???

[Delusional Kisses]

I have gotten the impression on several occassions that my friends (who are now a married couple) might be swingers. I'm not sure why this thought has crossed my mind on more than one occasion as I have never seen them openly flirting with another couple, but there have been several conversations that led in this direction. They are originally from out-of-state and I attended their wedding in that state recently. This was the first time I had encountered any of their friends. During my four days there, I encountered quite a bit of behaivor that I found interesting. For instance, while all staying in a rented cabin together, everyone used the restroom and showered with the doors open. It was common place for all of the girls to apply makeup and do their hair completely nude and four of the guys asked to have sex with me and two girls kissed me out of the blue. My head is still spinning. Was my assumption right all along? I don't want to assume anything. I'd like to just know. I don't care if they are, but it would keep my mind from spinning when odd things happen.

[Catdancer]

Completely possible. Why not ask them?

[SongCoyote]

Sounds like you've encoutered swingers or a group relationship (aka polyamory). The best thing you can do is communicate with them. In a gentle and polite fashion, tell them what you've observed and that you wonder if they have an open relationship of some kind. Take care not to be accusatory or judgemental and they'll likely let you know what's up. Then you can decide whether you are interested in interacting with them and to what extent with a minimum of assumptions.

 

I wish you well and hope that your experience in exploring with them (even if just in conversation) is a positive one.

 

Light and laughter,

SongCoyote

[regular joe]

If they are not, they are all very comfortable in their sexuality. Like the others said you can always ask them, even though it will be a little hard to bring up up. It's not like you can go " So did you see the game last night and I was wondering if you all are swingers?" For the next wedding there, did I mention, that I make a great wedding date? lol.

[greywolf]

Is it necessary for you to know? It's just my opinion, but I think that it's probably none of your business. I don't ask my friends about their sexual lives unless they bring it up or if that's the type of friendship we have.

[Delusional Kisses]

I often feel like they want to tell me but they too are uncertain about bringing it up. While at the reception, one of the groomsmen started telling me about some trips that the group takes together and that I should join. He said "They get pretty wild!" and I said "oh yeah? sounds fun" and he said "I mean really wild like lots of nudity and such".

[KG]

I often feel like they want to tell me but they too are uncertain about bringing it up. While at the reception, one of the groomsmen started telling me about some trips that the group takes together and that I should join. He said "They get pretty wild!" and I said "oh yeah? sounds fun" and he said "I mean really wild like lots of nudity and such".

 

There's your answer. Wild, and nudity. Shhhwing!