Hard time just being friends

[Ms Darcy]

So, basically, you agree with my advice (back off, but remain friendly), in a more wordy manner

 

No, I'm saying he should be gracious and not judge. Big difference in my opinion.

[ravensfan]

Thanks again for the advice. Honestly, I really just want to tell her that I'm going to give her some space and that I'll be around if she ever changes her mind. I know that I've talked to her a couple times about this relationship thing, but it seems that if I just keep my distance without explaining why, it would confuse things a bit.

[Ms Darcy]

Thanks again for the advice. Honestly, I really just want to tell her that I'm going to give her some space and that I'll be around if she ever changes her mind. I know that I've talked to her a couple times about this relationship thing, but it seems that if I just keep my distance without explaining why, it would confuse things a bit.

 

I think that's a good way to go. The big thing is that you don't want to stay stuck. She could move on in a few months and you try again and then find out she's not attracted to you. Time wasted.

[Clarity]

No, I'm saying he should be gracious and not judge. Big difference in my opinion.

 

I'm not sure where I told him to judge anyone... just told him what the likely scenarios are (there are several) and what his best option is (back off, remain friendly).

 

Anyway, this is pointless - I think if he takes either of our advice, he'll be better off than he is now.

[ravensfan]

Thanks to everyone for the advice.

 

Clarity: You're right, despite the differences in opinion expressed on this thread, in the end I am much better off and understand what it is that I need to do.

 

Time to give her the space she deserves, move on and look to meet other women. The hardest part: getting over her. At least it's not the first time I've been rejected, so I'll get over it.

 

Meeting her helped me vastly improve my communication skills anyways, I did a lot of things differently with her than I ever did with other women. I used to be horrible at talking to women. This time though, I had her feeling very comfortable and she really enjoyed the time we spent together. I was able to ask her out like a man, and then take the rejection like a man, which were major problems I had with women before as well. That definitely counts for something in my book.

 

Thanks again to everyone, you have pulled through for me. I almost thought I had no where to turn for help until I ran into this forum.