lunatic Posted April 19, 2010 Share Posted April 19, 2010 My problem is when my wife and I fight she is always right. I no matter what I do or how I handle the situation will be apologizing at the end of the day. She tells me I don’t listen to her and that she cannot talk to me. When I sit down and listen to her I hear what she has to say. The problem is when I express my feelings I am wrong. I don’t know what to do about this. Yesterday for example… She went out in the morning to buy food for the week. We have a 10 month old little girl that is teething and not sleeping too good. She went out and when she got home she told me to pick something we can eat for dinner. Well around 6:30 I was installing a network line in by the new TV and Blu-ray player. She got angry that I did not know what I wanted to eat. She then went upstairs and put her shoes on so she could go out to get us food. She asked me what I wanted and I told her the same thing I told her earlier. I don’t know! She then threw up her arms and started crying! Telling me that she asked me to do only one thing today (pick out what I wanted to eat) and I did not do that. She then complained that I only cared about me and the network install could have waited. I lost my cool because I did not know what I did that set her off, As usual. I then reacted poorly and freaked out because I cannot win when it comes to an argument with her. She threatened to leave with the baby and that she would be contacting a divorce lawyer on Monday. Well that really got to me and I lost it. I did not touch her or lay a finger on her. I flipped out and I told her that I would leave which she told me I did not have to do. She told me all the things I did wrong and how she has a breaking point. That I am sarcastic and mean to her all the time over the last two weeks. Now I swear I did not get sarcastic with her till she threw her hands up in the air and freaked out on me. Now I admit I flipped out and I did apologize to her for freaking out the way I did. I admit I took it too far and should have left when I lost my cool. I only yelled at her venting my frustrations on her that I can do no right in her eyes. I feel like I am always wrong when it comes to our arguments. I have been apologizing to her in the past even when I felt I did no wrong. The whole saying sorry when I don’t feel like I did anything is getting on my nerves. I don’t want a divorce but, I don’t know what to do or where to turn. How can I show her that my feelings have merit like hers do? How do I get her to understand that I get frustrated when I feel like no matter what I do I AM always wrong. Please help! I am at my wits end here and getting to the point that I think divorce is the best thing for all involved. I love her and my daughter very much but, I get so mad sometimes because everything is MY fault! Link to comment
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