bobbydigital42 Posted April 19, 2010 Share Posted April 19, 2010 I never thought I'd be posting in a forum like this but I need help. Ill try to sum up everything. I am 26/m was dating a 25/f. We dated for 6 yrs coming up this summer. We've both I thought had everything mapped out towards proposal, marriage, kids, etc. Of course, like all couple we've had our ups and downs. Never once enough to break up. We've not talked for days but we have always worked through things. We have known each other since high school, but we didn't hang out until after. We started dating and everything in the first year honestly I don't remember, we were both still in party mode and really just partied. We both settle down, she started school to become a nurse, I own my business now. We both still live with our parents which makes things hard. We planned to move out this summer. She will graduate may and should have a job soon after. I will have my business paid off soon after. We have been waiting for ever for this day. Everything was great, we went on vacation last feb. and had a blast. Two weeks later she went out to a club with friends and got really drunk and made out with a random guy. The next night was my bday night and we went out with a bunch of friends and I could tell something wasnt right, we had a huge fight that night and she left. The next day or so, she called and said "we need to talk" She told me about the kiss and we both got angry and then she told me everything else i have done wrong and that she wasnt happy anymore. I took all this very hard and then she just cut off all contact with me. Im sure I made thing worse then when I tried anything i could to talk to her. I just wanted answers. Couple weeks go buy and she allows me to talk to her and that night she said she wanted to be with me again, she loved me, etc. Things seemed good for a couple days then one morning she left my house and started the ignoring me no contact without telling me anything again. I continued to try to talk to her but nothing, maybe a response every now and then. Couple more weeks go by, I get a call at 9am with her crying telling me she need me to come over, she was breaking down. Come to find out her dad hand wrote her a 6 pg note about how upset he was with the way she was acting lately, she was going out all night drinking, not coming home, missing school, etc. Of course I go to comfort and she breaks down and tell me she is scared to grow up and she doesnt know what to do so she just goes and drinks. I get her settle and she tells me she wants me to be there that nite bc she wants to have a talk with her parents and ask for help with her alcohol problem. We had a long emotional talk with her parents and seemed like that was the problem. Couple days go by and things are ok between us, we got lunch, talked a little, then she got distant again. I decided to go all out last Sat. night, planned moonlight picnic on the water etc, made plans to pick her, i did with roses and all, blind folded her and took her to the secret spot. I poured my heart to her. She said she loved and cared for me but wasnt in love anymore and she couldnt do it anymore. Mostly my fault, I did take her for granted and now that I look back she diffenitly put in more effort then I did. that was her only complaints. She said she has felt that way for a while. and she has given me plenty of chances, and she has. I just didnt ever make the little changes i needed. This last month has been very eye opening. I love this girl with all my heart and was at a point where i was ready to settle down and start a foundation for the future. I see where I was wrong and would definitly change what I needed to, its only small things. but she says no more, she cant do it anymore. So heartbroken, I never thought she would break up with me. Dont know where to go or begin to start to cope with all this. I just want one more chance. Link to comment
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