reasons for random hooking up

[katzzz1]

I'm sure sure where to post this, but what are some of the reasons people hook up (oral/sex) with complete strangers? Are there different reasons why a man hooks up vs a woman?

 

I know alcohol is one reason why someone would be more likely to hook up, but i'm wondering on a deeper level if there is something wrong with someone that hooks up a lot. I'm not trying to say people that do random hook ups are bad, I'm just curious

[Go Habs Go]

People that hook up randomly and with complete strangers are promiscuous and have issues that go far beyond sex. These days, with STDs all over the place, having sex without an STD test is risky, let alone randomly hooking up with someone.

[eikal]

Some people simply like variety, others are just horn-dogs, some are lonely, and a few are just scared of commitment. There are numerous reasons

[misssmithviii]

Coming from a past of being rather promiscuous, I don't know if this is a general reason really but I wanted to flip the tables a bit. I enjoyed the heartless nature of it and yeah, I had some real issues. My man's past of promiscuity came from his search for love - he was looking for it in the wrong ways of course he knows that now as he's older. Another reason was probably from a bit of insecurity. But there were times he legitimately just didn't really care about the girl much and it was just because they were both single and they wanted to. I'm sure that's the reason behind a lot of random hook-ups.

But for me, it was purely vindictive against male-kind.

 

So in my opinion, there's many reasons.

[CarnelianButterfly]

People that hook up randomly and with complete strangers are promiscuous and have issues that go far beyond sex. These days, with STDs all over the place, having sex without an STD test is risky, let alone randomly hooking up with someone.

That's only one group of people, there are many other people that simply enjoy the sex. There are as many reasons as there are people.

[Go Habs Go]

That's only one group of people, there are many other people that simply enjoy the sex. There are as many reasons as there are people.

 

 

There's a difference between enjoying sex and randomly hooking up.

[CarnelianButterfly]

There's a difference between enjoying sex and randomly hooking up.

In your opinion, but there are those that do not share your opinion.

[Go Habs Go]

In your opinion, but there are those that do not share your opinion.

 

 

Of course there will be some that don't agree. But those people will eventually suffer the consequences of their random hookups. Either they will get hurt, or end up with an STD, or both.

[HeartGoesOn]

Many of them feel that there is no need for an emotional connection, and having meaningless sex is fine. They don't think of the possibility of pregnancy or obtaining a STD, they just live in the moment, and face the consequences later.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Of course there will be some that don't agree. But those people will eventually suffer the consequences of their random hookups. Either they will get hurt, or end up with an STD, or both.

If they have no interest in a committed relationship, then they have no way of getting hurt. Also, there are plenty of ways to protect yourself from STDs. If one plans ahead and is smart, there are no consequences to finding enjoyment in sex with people you are not in relationships with.

[Go Habs Go]

If they have no interest in a committed relationship, then they have no way of getting hurt. Also, there are plenty of ways to protect yourself from STDs. If one plans ahead and is smart, there are no consequences to finding enjoyment in sex with people you are not in relationships with.

 

 

If you develop feelings for someone, then yes you will get hurt. As I mentioned earlier, having sex without an STD test is risky enough. You can only protect yourself so much. Some STDs can spread even with a condom, making the condom basically useless with the exception of preventing pregnancy.

 

Too many people are under the impression that they're fine as long as they use a condom. Not the case.

[BriarRose]

People get lonely, they get horny. It doesn't mean there is something dysfunctional with them on some deeper level (although there could be). It also doesn't mean that person doesn't long for a deeper relationship, but that it hasn't come along yet.

[CarnelianButterfly]

If you develop feelings for someone, then yes you will get hurt. As I mentioned earlier, having sex without an STD test is risky enough. You can only protect yourself so much. Some STDs can spread even with a condom, making the condom basically useless with the exception of preventing pregnancy.

 

Too many people are under the impression that they're fine as long as they use a condom. Not the case.

You don't need to have feelings for someone to have sex with them.

 

True, some STDs are contagious even with condoms, but if you are smart you can avoid those infections. Most STDs are prevented by condoms, the ones that can still be transmitted still have reduced occurrences with condom users.

 

You can be hurt in a long term monogamous relationship and you can get STDs during such relationships as well.

 

All things considered, you have to take care of yourself either way.

[Go Habs Go]

You don't need to have feelings for someone to have sex with them.

 

 

Of course you don't have to, but you can avoid a lot of drama if you hold out for a bit.

 

 

True, some STDs are contagious even with condoms, but if you are smart you can avoid those infections. Most STDs are prevented by condoms, the ones that can still be transmitted still have reduced occurrences with condom users.

 

 

Most is not all, and the ones that can't be prevented can have long-term consequences. Is it worth the possibility of herpes or high risk HPV to have an hour of pleasure?

 

 

You can be hurt in a long term monogamous relationship and you can get STDs during such relationships as well.

 

 

Of course you can, but as long as no one cheats and you both get tested for STDs. you should be fine health wise.

 

 

All things considered, you have to take care of yourself either way.

 

 

That goes without saying.

[Day_Walker]

There are many reasons as to why a person may just hook up randomly. I think that you have to look at each person and see what reasons why they like to hook up randomly.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Of course you don't have to, but you can avoid a lot of drama if you hold out for a bit.

If a person spends one night with someone how can there be drama?

Most is not all, and the ones that can't be prevented can have long-term consequences. Is it worth the possibility of herpes or high risk HPV to have an hour of pleasure?

Not all sex will lead to an infection, hence my assertion you have to be smart.

Of course you can, but as long as no one cheats and you both get tested for STDs. you should be fine health wise.

Some STDs can be carried by a person with no symptoms present and may never show symptoms, but they can spread it, no cheating needed. A monogamous relationship is not protection.

 

It is the idividuals choice whether or not have anonymous sex, others can not dictate to people or judge them because they do not share an opinion. A lecture about STDs is not going to dissuade someone from a chosen path if they enjoy what they do, nor is a lecture on morality or others opinion of that lifestyle. People will live their lives by their own volition and have every right to make their own choices.

 

Whatever the reason for a persons actions, it is their life and their choice.

[tiredofvampires]

But for me, it was purely vindictive against male-kind.

 

How did that help you get back at men, when most men hooking up with you are just glad to be gettin' some? Just wondering.

[Sparkly Eyes]

hmmm, that's not exactly true... in a monogamous relationship you can ask the person to get tested for all the stds before you sleep with them. You can't do that in an ONS"hey, go get tested and then we have an ONS!".

The only thing that you can not test for is hpv for men. However, you still can ask them about their past girl friends and how their pap smear tests came up or if they had any warts...this way you can get an idea of if they can have it or not.

 

But you are right. If someone wants to risk diseases, it's their lives and their choice. I just hope that they get tested regularly and tell their partners if they have anything.

[tiredofvampires]

However, you still can ask them about their past girl friends and how their pap smear tests came up or if they had any warts...this way you can get an idea of if they can have it or not.

 

And most guys wanting a serious relationship don't even know the answer to this! If I was dating a guy and we started to get intimate, chances are he would have no clue what his last partners' doctors said. That's been my experience.

 

Let alone asking a ONS, "Did your last girlfriends have clean pap tests?" What a joke.

 

I can see it now. "Girlfriends? Haven't had one since '92. That . Anyway, my place or yours, baby?"

[CarnelianButterfly]

And most guys wanting a serious relationship don't even know the answer to this! If I was dating a guy and we started to get intimate, chances are he would have no clue what his last partners' doctors said. That's been my experience.

 

Let alone asking a ONS, "Did your last girlfriends have clean pap tests?" What a joke.

 

I can see it now. "Girlfriends? Haven't had one since '92. That . Anyway, my place or yours, baby?"

LOL, never had a ONS, but I can imagine that conversation is not a common occurrence.

[In the Dark]

Most of the time....my friends female and male did it because they could.

Hot guy wants sex, she wants sex, win win.

 

Except for the ugly guys who rely on personality but that does not work in the random hook up sense 90% of the time.