tf987 Posted April 18, 2010 Share Posted April 18, 2010 So I made this friend on a vacation - lots of flirting and such on the vacation but nothing happened. After an awkward "silent" period from her after returning to the US she called me and we talked and exchanged a few emails and texts - I came to learn her "silent" period was a combination of her being really busy with tax season (she works for a group of brokers) and my phone provider failing to forward a text she sent me when my phone was out of service for 6 days while I was on a climbing trip. Anyway - her life is very complicated at the moment (she is going through a divorce - almost final but a 2 year separation...) and she says we are just friends - she said she doesn't feel the same attraction that I feel for her (this was in an email) - yet she still contacts me a lot and is doing this huge favor for me - which I know she hardly has the time for... and she told me she spent 2 hours on one of the emails she sent me... Okay... anyway I'm taking her at her word that she isn't attracted to me (like I am to her)... and so I'm dating another (actually 2 others). Well she called me early Fri evening and I never got back to her because I was on a date that didn't end until the next afternoon - then she sent me a text to tell me that she was going to see me at yoga class on Sunand she'd have my CDs for me (she was copying 3CDs worth of photos for me from the vacation from her camera). I wound up calling her back Sat afternoon and we talked for a while, and she asked me how my day was going so far and what I had "going on"... I found myself not wanting to tell her what I had been doing... So the question is - she says we are just friends - but I do still like her, how bad of a move would it be to admit to her that I just had a date that went from Fri eve till Sat early afternoon? I don't like being dishonest (even by omission) but I'm also reluctant to turn her off - not that I think that are any feelings (from her end) to really turn off... I'd feel like telling her what I was doing would seem like I was just trying to make her jealous and seem gamey... and I hate game playing. So I wound up just saying "oh... I was doing some things... sorry to seem evasive" and left it at that. Didn't know what else to tell her and we quickly moved on to another topic, her job, our writing styles, etc.... Link to comment
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