Ever feel so overwhelmed from going through changes that it makes you frequently cry?

[stella74]

For the past few months, I feel I've been going through tremendous changes in myself. I think it's the culmination of a lot of things I've been experiencing in the last couple of years added to normal life changes, and for some reason it's all building now to the point where I can't ignore it all. I've even been having dreams recently that symbolize making positive improvements in my life. Recently, I've been feeling so overwhelmed that I spontaneously burst out crying. I don't cry when I'm in public, just when I'm alone and have time to be at peace with myself.

 

I feel more content than I've ever felt in my life, and a part of that scares me and I don't know why. Just writing that sentence made me cry. LOL See, I can laugh at myself and step back from the situation to realize this is probably all very normal. But I don't feel I can talk to anyone I know about this. I've either lost my closest friends or have outgrown them to the point that they don't seem to "get" me as much these days, and I'm not close with my family. So I thought I would come here to see if anyone has experienced this before. If so, is this healthy? Or is this something I should be concerned about?

[veralyn]

just reading the title made me go YES.

 

wow, someone who's actually as emotional as me. i thought i was abnormal for crying so frequently. the smallest things sometimes make me cry. and i dont know why. i think it's just a surge of feeling inside of you, and crying is a way to express it... maybe something moves you, or hits a nerve for whatever reason...

 

how old are you? i'm 21. and for the first time in my life i kind of feel like an adult. i actually FEEL the changes inside of my happening. i've had a pretty rough year, emotionally, mentally, family-wise, relationship-wise. in general just rough. and it has FORCED me to try to toughen up and grow up, and face the music. and all these changes have made me an emotional mess. but also a little bit stronger. it's been kind of like a wrestling match between my past and my future. it feels both good and bad.

 

i guess my point is that changes are hard on you, in my opinion, because you have to decide to accept the change and let go of what it was before. it's kinda overwhelming, and to some, makes you cry!!!

 

are you a cancer sign?

[asthesparrow]

Wow I can totally relate with everything you said, incl. the friends & family part ):

I am going thru huge changes right now, and although I am excited, happy, I am so overwhelmed (and maybe being lonely helps) that I am sooo quick to cry these days!!

If you need to talk, I am here.

[stella74]

That's the funny thing. I'm in my 40s. No, I'm not a cancer. Maybe I'm going through mid-life crisis.

 

Seriously, though, I understand what you're saying and I think perhaps this transcends age. There are times in our life when we are forced to grow and it can feel overwhelming because we haven't had a chance to process it all yet. So crying is a good release during that process of change and growth. At least, I hope so.

[stella74]

I am going thru huge changes right now, and although I am excited, happy, I am so overwhelmed (and maybe being lonely helps) that I am sooo quick to cry these days!!

 

Yes, exactly. Do you ever worry about it?

[veralyn]

exactly. maybe you are going through a mid-life crisis haha. as i am going through a mid-youth crisis. all the symptoms are the same. but i wouldnt call it a CRISIS...... just...... life.

 

i worry about it sometimes. but i dont think you should.... some people are just more emotional than others. people express their feelings in totally different ways. i'd say crying is one of the better ends of the spectrum.

[asthesparrow]

Yes, exactly. Do you ever worry about it?

 

Of course.... I was driving my sister someplace the other day, and burst into tears at the sight of the mountains (which i see out my window, daily, they arent new to me!!)

 

Then, I laughed through the tears!!

Haha. I worry because it is unsettling not to have control over emotion, to feel hopeless, and sometimes feel a little crazy when you lose your marbles... But I know it is a part of life, and I know it is just because I am a little overwhelmed!

[stella74]

I think in my case, I don't feel hopeless or crazy. It's sort of the opposite. I feel more sane and well-adjusted than I ever have, and I've had a really hard life in some ways but have worked really hard to overcome life's obstacles. We all have to deal with adversity in one form or another. I guess I never thought I'd get to the place I'm at now. It didn't seem possible.

[veralyn]

I think crying is just a form of expression.

 

This is an overshare, but you don't know me, so oh well... I used to cry every time i orgasmed.

 

The best physical feeling in the world and i cried. ha ha, only because it was so good my body was overwhelmed!!!

 

i think good emotions can provoke the same reaction

[stella74]

Yes, crying is an expression of emotion. That's a good way of putting it. I guess I've always thought that prolonged periods of crying indicate something to be concerned about. I'm going to try to monitor what emotion or emotions I'm feeling when the tears happen. I think if I can identify and understand what I'm feeling it might help. Or maybe I should let the tears flow freely, without thinking too much about them!

[quirky]

Do you get a feeling of wholeness..like you're one with life?

[stella74]

No, it's not really that so much, because when I'm just experiencing feeling whole I usually don't feel so overwhelmed that I burst out crying. I think it's that feeling on top of other feelings...gratitude, relief, fear, joy??