wish4me Posted April 16, 2010 Share Posted April 16, 2010 My husband and I have been married for 3 months. He comes from a very close family, with 5 siblings. For the past few weeks his Mom, keeps repeating - in her own words " your his wife and I understand that you and things at your house come first... and that's ok.." (If its ok with her then why is she bringing it up all the time?) Just last week his sister gave birth to a beautiful baby. She was in labor for over 18 hours and had complications from the epidural. It's family tradition that when a baby is born within his family, all the siblings gather at the hospital prior to delivery to get first insight of news. I had just got home from work that day after working a 12 hour shift. My husband asked me if it was ok for him to drive to the hospital to wait on the news... I didn't care for him to go and besides both my kids had school the following day (and tests) and I needed to get them to bed early. Besides, I didn't know how long we would be at the hospital. I felt that it was a special time for his sister and husband, with their first child, and that it would be ok for me to visit them the following night. My husband arrived home late and told me that ALL the family were there, including grandchildren, cousins etc (over 18 people surrounding the nursing station).. I went to the hospital the following night to see the baby, but was greeted by my mother-in-law with a very COLD attitude. She was distant and made the remark "well, we missed not seeing you here last night". I felt like I was being judged.. seriously.. Perhaps my ways are old fashioned but I felt that his sister/brother-in-law needed that time together.. I know I would....... When I left the hospital his Mom told me "you need to call me more... I don't like calling you because you may be busy doing things"... I just feel like I'm not fitting into her ways.. How can I address this issue with her? Link to comment
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