random_love Posted April 16, 2010 Share Posted April 16, 2010 hello, im 20 years old and i have a serious problem with my relationship that i don't know how to solve so heres my story. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year and a half now, and we fight constantly, every single day, multiple times a day. our fights are about stupid stuff mainly, but we still scream at eachother and don't listen. we are both extremely stubborn and have bad tempers which makes our personalities clash when we get upset. we've tried breaking up more than 5 times, but we love each other too much to stay broken up. i actually can't break up with him, because i love him too much even though we are mean to each other. we still have fun together and are soooo happy when we arent fighting, but unfortunately we cant go a day without fighting. i feel so trapped because it isnt getting any better, but breaking up isnt the easy way out because i am so emotionally invested in this boy that i would be 10 times more unhappy if he wasnt in my life anymore. he is an amazing person when we arent being stubborn and fighting, so its not like i have a good reason to dump him (like if he was a big jerk or something, because hes not). i feel that i have ran out of options to save our relationship, but i just know breaking up will just make both of us even more unhappy than we are now (also we work at the same place so breaking up means someone has to quit). i dont know what to do anymore, i am so stuck and unhappy and just want us to love each other and have passion the way we used to. if anyone has any real advice (that isnt anything like going on a break or breaking up or going to therapy--cuz we dont have time or money for that) or even any books or websites that have actually helped them when they had a similar problem, please let me know. i really love this boy to death but am going insane. thank you so much. Link to comment
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