Chalie Posted April 16, 2010 Share Posted April 16, 2010 Me and my boyfriend has been together for about 10 months. We love each other very much and have a great time together. But we both lost our social life outside our relationship since we got together. I have been trying to activate myself lately, meeting up with friends and other activities. Cause I don't really like my life at the moment. My boyfriend on the other hand feel that there's something wrong and he doesn't like his passive life but he doesn't know why or what to do to make him satisfied with his life again. He was devastated when he came home tonight after he has been out with his childhood friend. He cried and told me he don't know if he wants this anymore and was really emotional and a bit drunk. He said he doesn't know if he loved me anymore and he doesn't know if he could give me what I wanted and so I. He was really a mess. So I calmed him down and tried to make suggestions about how we could solve this problem of his by saying that we should take it slower for a while and see how he feels after a while. He thought it was a good idea but he doesn't seem too satisfied so I asked him if he rather break up with me. He said it might be better since he doesn't know what he wants. I felt really bad of course since I didn't see this coming. This was in the middle of the night and I can't really go home. So I suggested that we should at least agree with my first suggestion and then later break up if that's what he wants. Cause it feels really bad being in the same apartment with someone that just broke up with you. He agreed and we talked some more about it and later the truth came out. He also has been feeling very lazy and inactive just like me. He didn't know what was wrong and how to handle it since he hasn't been in any longterm relationship before. Me on the other hand have been in at least one longterm relationship so I knew that wasn't his or the relationship's fault that I became lazy. Yea, I admit that being in a relationship could make you lazy but it's up to you to change that. So when he finally knew what was wrong with him and why he felt like that he calmed down allot and felt very bad about what he just put me through. he also told me that he loved me very much and he was a fool to doubt that. He was confused and stupid he said. I understand him but emotionally I'm hurt. This happened once before but we didn't get to the root of it like we did this time. We just somehow made up and thought it was just a normal fight that couples have sometimes. But now we found out that he had that feeling that time too but he didn't want to lose me so we made up. But it was close. I don't know if it's worth staying. Maybe you think I'm a fool to think that now when we know what the problem is. But I feel so sad and disappointed but mostly hurt. How could he do that to me? What if he do that again? Should I leave him to protect myself? I know it's hard to act and think the right way when you lack the experience of being in a relationship. But I don't know if I can take it anymore. I feel like garbage when it happens. Last time it took me days before I was happy again. What do you think? Should I give it another shot or should I end it while I can? Link to comment
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