Binoo Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 I need some advice on a friend I've had for about 5 years. When I first met him he developed a crush on me. He would call me everyday. He knew when I would get home from work and about 2 minutes after I'd get in the door the phone would ring. He'd call up to about 5 times a day. A few times he kept me on the phone for nearly 8 hours. When I finally convinced him to let me go he got all depressed about it. It went on like this for about 9 months. He kept asking me to date him but at the time I wasn't interested in any relationship and either way, I didn't really have any feelings for him. Anyway, I ended up meeting someone I did have feelings for and eventually he stopped calling after I screened all my calls for a few months. We got back in touch about 2 years ago through Facebook. I figured everything would be fine and he'd have gotten over his crush. Just as a side note, I'm fully convinced that this crush was due to him being very lonely and clingy and not out of genuine interest in me in particular but rather the thought of having a girlfriend. I feel this way because of some of the things he would say and his character. Anyway, we keep in touch now and he knows I have a boyfriend so he doesn't interfere but he'll send me random creepy messages on Facebook which I believe are meant to try to make me jealous but they just plain annoy me. For example, I asked what he did this weekend and the only thing he wrote was, "I fingered a girl at the bar". That's it! Or he'll just send me messages saying he met someone. It's usually just some girl online or something but he doesn't even ask how my weekend was or anything. He just writes his one line e-mail. So, of course I don't respond. The thing is if I go too long without talking to him he'll send me concerning messages like, "Nobody wants to talk to me. I've started cutting myself because I'm a monster and no woman would ever want me"...etc. etc. I've tried to give him some encouragement although he doesn't seem overly convinced because of our past. I gave him one date and never again. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm responsible for the way he's feeling and acting. To be honest, I don't know that he's actually gone as far as cutting himself because he is a bit of an attention seeker but the doubt is what keeps me from blocking him. I just don't really know what to do anymore. Should I block him? Talk to him more? Normally, I just don't answer his messages but then I'll get more e-mails from him threatening to off himself or something like that. It's obviously a cry for attention but I worry that maybe something will push him over the edge. Don't know what to do. Link to comment
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