overly paranoid about my relationship.

[jack4956]

im so paranoid my girlfriend doesnt like me anymore, she said shes acting weird because of family problems, only a couple ov weeks ago she was telling me i was perfect and shes fully smitten. but now she doesnt even text me good night anymore also when im with her shes not affectionate.

i actually cant sleep because im just thinking does she likes me or not.

can somebody just tell me im being stupid if i am? andwhat i should do about me paranoia

[BIGIDFSH]

I can't help you with your girlfriend because I don't know if she likes you or not, but I can tell you that you really need to work on your self-esteem. Sounds like you need to focus on whether or not you like you. How can you expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself? Besides a confident (not arrogant) man is hot as he11.

[jack4956]

thank you, have u any ideas how to do that

[BIGIDFSH]

How old are you?

[jack4956]

Im only seventeen

[mmmd]

smoke weed!

 

you're 17 dude. this stuff happens. not what you want to hear, but you think you're going to be with this girl forever? do stuff you like to do. go to the gym and get buff. play sports. if she comes around, radical, if not, you're the man anyway

[jack4956]

im smoke to much weed, i think that is a big part of my paranoia

[BIGIDFSH]

Here is a good website for you link removed

 

As for self-esteem, there are a million things you can do to improve it. Why is having this girl as a girlfriend so important to you? You are very young and there are so many more wonderful things you should be focusing your attention on. Not to mention many more girls You think you're being paranoid, you're not paranoid, you are insecure.

 

Tell me a few things you like about yourself? What are some things you enjoy doing? And instead of asking if this girls likes you, tell me why you think she should??

 

 

• Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself. If you're used to focusing on your shortcomings, start thinking about positive aspects of yourself that outweigh them. When you catch yourself being too critical, counter it by saying something positive about yourself. Each day, write down three things about yourself that make you happy.
  
• Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection. Some people become paralyzed by perfection. Instead of holding yourself back with thoughts like, "I won't audition for the play until I lose 10 pounds," think about what you're good at and what you enjoy, and go for it.
  
• View mistakes as learning opportunities. Accept that you will make mistakes because everyone does. Mistakes are part of learning. Remind yourself that a person's talents are constantly developing, and everyone excels at different things — it's what makes people interesting.
  
• Try new things. Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents. Then take pride in new skills you develop.
  
• Recognize what you can change and what you can't. If you realize that you're unhappy with something about yourself that you can change, then start today. If it's something you can't change (like your height), then start to work toward loving yourself the way you are.
  
• Set goals. Think about what you'd like to accomplish, then make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan and keep track of your progress.
  
• Take pride in your opinions and ideas. Don't be afraid to voice them.
  
• Make a contribution. Tutor a classmate who's having trouble, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a walkathon for a good cause, or volunteer your time in some other way. Feeling like you're making a difference and that your help is valued can do wonders to improve self-esteem.
  
• Exercise! You'll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier.
  
• Have fun. Ever found yourself thinking stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were thinner"? Enjoy spending time with the people you care about and doing the things you love. Relax and have a good time — and avoid putting your life on hold.
  

[Capricorn3]

im smoke to much weed, i think that is a big part of my paranoia

Could well be a great possibility. Maybe quit smoking weed and see if it gives you a different perspective.

 

That said, she told you she's got family problems, so she might need a little space and that explains her being a little "different" around you as she has a lot on her mind.

[jack4956]

thanks for all the information

[jack4956]

if indeed its family problems, what can i do, what should i do. do i talk to her about it, do i not mention it, do i not talk to her for a couple of days??

[BIGIDFSH]

Good lord, lol

 

She's 17 she probably has the attention span of a gnat. Regardless of whether it's family problems, friend problems or they discontinued her favorite shade of nail polish there is not a lot you can do to make her behave in the manner in which you seem she should be. Leave her alone, let her come to you if she needs you and get on with enjoying your life.

 

Nevermind, just smoke weed.

[jack4956]

i dont think you understand how beautiful and funny she is

[Capricorn3]

if indeed its family problems, what can i do, what should i do. do i talk to her about it, do i not mention it, do i not talk to her for a couple of days??

I'm sure if she wants/needs help she'll let you know. I would carry on as normal.

[Capricorn3]

i dont think you understand how beautiful and funny she is

Not sure what that's got to do with anything, but anyhoo ...... lol.

[jack4956]

if indeed its family problems, what can i do, what should i do. do i talk to her about it, do i not mention it, do i not talk to her for a couple of days??

[Capricorn3]

if indeed its family problems, what can i do, what should i do. do i talk to her about it, do i not mention it, do i not talk to her for a couple of days??

This has already been replied to above.

[jack4956]

ive just texted her sayin what you doing tonight?

she texted back going out x

i then texted back what you doin nice? x

and then she texted back just saying brb

 

is that bad??

[mmmd]

you're 17. go do things 17 year olds do that don't involve being psychotic over a girl.