why does exbf still contact you but dont want to get back together?

[jbrooklyn]

Dont tell me just for sex because I would have done that and he didnt want to in the end. (yeah...i know). He definitely was!

 

My ex told me he hates me, dont call him, and all this very negative and painful stuff. It took me weeks to get over that part alone.

 

anyway he comes im me to let me know that he quit the social group we went to another and let me know I could continue to be a member now that he is gone.

 

Of course I was shocked to even hear from him. I told him I wasnt going back over there. He was it was up to me...he is moving on to better and bigger things. ....I told him, I was only telling you...I am staying with this other group that he doesnt have anything to do with and told him good luck.

 

I feel like he just wanted me to be there so he could know where I was but now the playing field is even. He dont need to know where I am either.

 

I dont understand men. If you dont want anything to do with me....if you hate me soooo much....if you want to forget about you....then why do you contact me? It is just retarded!!

[Xylitol]

Men go thru cycles of wanting and not wanting (hormone related)

 

But i can give you the clear advice to stay the hell away from him, if anything don't let yourself be pulled back into a black hole of negativity. The guy hates you, are you expecting a happy relationship , duh. No, the conclusion = break off all contact and find yourself a guy who can make you happy, he can't .

[jbrooklyn]

Men go thru cycles of wanting and not wanting (hormone related)

 

But i can give you the clear advice to stay the hell away from him, if anything don't let yourself be pulled back into a black hole of negativity. The guy hates you, are you expecting a happy relationship , duh. No, the conclusion = break off all contact and find yourself a guy who can make you happy, he can't .

 

I hear what your saying. I do know that sometimes people say things in anger but at the end of the day. He should apologize for his words. I dont think he should have talked to me like that. Unfortunately I still care about him so I am doing all I can to stay away and ignore him going forward. He doesnt deserve my friends or any of my benefits either. Thanks for the reply and please pray for me.

[MakestheBest]

He's being an immature baby...i had an ex like that years ago...he had to make a 3 year old "point" and put on a show to show me how mad or over me he was. It was ridiculous. And something that truly dulled the attraction. How old is your ex?

[uncomfynumb]

Men go thru cycles of wanting and not wanting (hormone related)

 

Really? Can you link me to a study on this? Sounds like something that I would be interested in reading.

 

Thanks!

 

Sorry for the hijack OP but if you block your ex from contacting you, then it solves the problems of all the questions. The more they are out of site so to speak, the more they are out of mind.