How do you win back an ex if they rarely make contact

[cherryberry123]

My ex did something weird...he posted a picture of a teddy bear i gave him a while back on facebook. Then, he contacted me through email the next day.We exchanged emails for a bit, but i stopped responding since I don't know what the point of it was. 5 days later, i got a random facebook msg telling me about something mundane.

I decided to call him and text him to see how he was doing.He didn't seem that excited during the conversation...at the end, he said "it was nice hearing from you". I guess I was hoping that he regained feelings for me, but the phone conversation made me feel otherwise.

The next day, I emailed him telling him I gave the teddy bear for certain reasons and for him to take down the pic. He never replied, and I haven't heard from since. It's been a week..

I would love to contact him again, but I shouldn't put myself into more torture. I don't know why he even bothered to contact me. His feelings were lost for me, and it seems impossible to get a second chance.

 

 

Should I just leave it at this?

I want to gradually start weaning myself back into his life, but I don't know what steps to take..

My last email telling him to take down the pic may have given him the idea that I didn't want him in my life anymore...

[shessofly]

if you haven't already ask him how he feels about you and your relationship. be up front with him, without pouring out your soul.

[fuuf]

Sounds like he was testing the waters with you, but might have changed his mind. Based on your phone convo, I would probably go NC for a while and go from there, unless he starts contacting you again.

[pumpkinmoon]

He posted that picture for a reason but I really do think you should not have called him. I would leave it at this now and see what his next moves are. Trying to work your way back in wont work.

[cherryberry123]

He posted that picture for a reason but I really do think you should not have called him. I would leave it at this now and see what his next moves are. Trying to work your way back in wont work.

 

I think he just didn't think when he posted the picture. I really don't know..and don't think I will ever find out.

I called him to ask about the picture on facebook, but chickened out. So, I decided to email him telling him to take it down the next day...

 

I don't know why this is so difficult. I just want to be able to talk to him without the awkwardness and just be able to prove myself to him.

 

Is asking to hang out too forward?

[blossom88]

I think that in such a case always tread carefully. If he has not replied to the email there is a reason he hasn't replied. On top of not replying to your email he sounded disinterested when you called. Why continue reaching? Do not read too much into the teddy bear picture! most of the times when we read so much into all sorts of random signs.

[shessofly]

leave it until he contacts you again...then go from there.

[LES79]

I'd leave it alone. But if it's bothering you that much, just straight up ask him why he posted the teddy bear picture and how it had you confused as to why he did that.