j416 Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 okay So this goes back a long ways. me and this girl started dating when she was 17 i was 19. she made it clear she was a virgin in the beginning so we took it slow. no biggie i liked her a lot. we spent a ton of time together in the beginning and got very close very fast. probabaly was 2 months before we slept together. after about 2 years, i get a random e-mail from a foney e-mail account. saying something like "you might want to ask your girlfriend if she really was a virgin" or something to that effect. my heart stopped i was furious \ sad. i have terrible trust issues. So i call her, dont tell her anything just tell her to come over and we need to talk. she came by, and i didnt say a word. i showed her the e-mail. She read it and instantly became furious and upset with it, Pleading to me that it was not true. She's a terrible liar, i could read her just as good as her mother. she started crying and kept insisting it was untrue. (but she also knew if it was true, and i caught her lying, i would end it in a split second). i e-mail the person back asking for more info, and never got a response. weeks later i log into my comp and her e-mail is still open. (bad i know but i looked through it) i went into the sent items, she had also e-mailed the person asking why they would say that, and she was pissed in the e-mail. (she never told me she e-mailed the person, she also didnt know who they were). I truly did believe her, she couldnt lie, let alone right to my face sitting her down the way i did. She was the most honest person i've ever met, and never gave me any reason to ever bieleve she was cheating or lied. now fast forward to a little after the breakup, im out with a friend of mine, who brings this up with me, not the e-mail but that she may have slept with someone. i asked how she knew, and she said that some of my ex's friends told her. and the crazy thing is, is that i know the guy who allegedly slept with her. Now all of this being said, i know it doesnt matter now, cuz were broken up, but im still very curious. she did admit to fooling around with this guy i know a bunch of times, i knew about it from before. but she said it didnt go further. so maybe her friends are just assuming she slept with him? or maybe she told them she did to get them off back and kinda fit in with the rest of the * * * * s. i dont know. What do i do? i need some opinions here. I know the guy quite well, and see him few times a year. should i ask him? i wouldnt be mad at him at all, not his fault. but it would definitely subside my left over feelings for her. and reassure that i made the right decision by ending things. any advice would be greatly appreciated. Link to comment
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