nanana Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 These are about healing success, but have interesting twists at the end. Firstly, my brother. He was with his first love for four years, the last year was pretty and and he ended up leaving her with a serious case of GIGS. She was lovely, but he dumped her quiet harshly and started dating a girl he worked with very shortly after. In fact, I think there might have been so over-lapping... This new relationship only lasted around 3 months. My brother then launched himself into single life, hanging out with his mates, getting drunk, all while his ex-girlfriend was suffering but trying to move on. He'd still speak to her from time to time every few months. After about 1 and a half YEARS he suddenly felt very strongly that he was missing her. He thought she'd always be there, but she was clearly pulling away. He eventually took steps to try and get her back, to which he turned him down because SHE HAD HEALED! For the first time in the year and a half my brother had split with her, he finally felt what it was like to miss her and be heartbroken. He was the dumper, but she was the one that moved on first because she had to, whereas he assumed she'd always be there and never really dealt with the loss. That's one of the only times I've ever really seen my brother cry. Sad for my brother, but good for her for moving on, because he treated her appallingly! Now a second story. A girl who I'm friends with dumped her first love after 2 years together. More GIGS. She wanted to be single, date new boys, and the guy was heartbroken. He tried to get in touch a few times with romantic gestures, but she ignored him repeatedly, and was actually cruel to him at a mutual friend's party. She had another relationship for about 4 months, and went on plenty of dates. However, after about 9 months of not hearing from her ex, around a year after the break-up, she started getting urges to call him. She waited about a month or so before finally giving in. She missed him and wanted to start seeing him again. The grass wasn't greener! He answered and was polite, but dropped into the conversation that he had a new girlfriend. She ended up being heartbroken, while he had moved on. I don't know many people with broken relationships, as I am still young so a lot of people I know are still with their first love. However, if this is any comfort to dumpees, a lot of people I know that have dumped people have said that actually they ended up moving on a lot later than the people they dumped. We're forced to move on, whereas they are only forced to move on when they one day realise you're gone for good! However, NC worked in both these cases. And it was only once the dumpees stopped pining for many months and showed independence that the dumpers realised what they'd lost. So it's time for us to try and move on! That way, if your dumper comes back a year down the, you can tell them where to go! And if they don't, you'll be too over it to even notice We hope! Link to comment
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