okane24 Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 The fact that I'm even on here, spells trouble for me. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I am hopelessly head over heels over my girlfriend. AND she leaves back to her home country in Korea in 3-4 months. We both now live in San Diego, Ca. We've only been together since November, so 5 months. Anyhow, it feels like I am 90% invested in this relationship and she is only 10%. She tells me she loves me. She calls me, but somewhere there is a disconnect. I ALWAYS plan the dates. I always have to ask her permission to go out with her. It totally feels like shes in control of everything! I Always buy her gifts, treat her like a princess... everything! And just recently, her best friend (girl) was in town for 2 weeks. I took a back seat and let them do their thing. I was involved and showed her friend around, but my girlfriend ALWAYS put her friends needs and wants over my own. I was clearly not a priority to her. My girlfriend promised me she would spend more time with me once her friend left, but most recently, she has not kept her word. This week we'll go out tomorrow night, Wednesday, but she just told me she doesn't want to sleep over, but will sleep over my place, later, on Saturday. Only ONE TIME A WEEK??? We live in the same city and she has no other committments! SO IT KILLS ME THAT SHE DOESN"T WANT TO SLEEP OVER EVERY DAY! LIKE I WANT! I want to see her all the time! I love spending time with her. And to know that shes leaving in a few months, I am more ANXIOUS and want to be with her all the time. Especially to have her sleep over and hold her in my arms!!! THis is driving me NUTS!!! What should I do? It seems like the more I beg or plead for her to spend time with me, the more she backs off. Should I let it be and not Push her (which she hates pushy people) or should i rationalize with her? SHould I play hard to get and make her miss me? I am just sooo afraid that if I do that, she'll realize she doesn't need me and won't bother seeing me at all. I am TOTALLY insecure with this girl. Shes the prettiest girl I've ever been with and she gets hit on, ALL THE TIME! Please help me and give me advice on how to "win her and make her Want to be with me more." Thanks! Link to comment
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