erroriam Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 Hey guys, I'll post more details below but the important facts are that I've been in NC with my ex gf for like 7 weeks, we were long distance for a few months, she dumped me, we were together for a little more than a year (HS relationship to early 1st year of college), I was the more clingy, I didn't argue much or beg, and she's a tough cookie. She's also my first serious one, and I am hers. I want her back. Our relationship started breaking down I think mostly because of communication/balance issues. I wanted to talk to her when she wasn't in the mood, and I guess I bothered her about it a lot. When she didn't want to talk I ended up just complaining -- I can see how that'd get old. By the end of it she felt like she couldn't meet my expectations or something. When we fought we used to talk over it after a bit of cooldown, but before we broke up she ignored me for days. I'd inadvertently become more like a parent sometimes, almost scolding her for that. Things got better on VDay, but at the end of that week I managed to fail at giving her help, though I tried. She was frustrated and wasn't very courteous while I was trying, so I again let her know -- but I was too harsh when she was stressed. In any case that was the catalyst, she'd been doubtful in January as well. She's the type of girl that ignores or runs away when something hurts her, and I feel terrible for going from someone she wanted to someone who hurt her feelings. I hate cell phones. The last thing I heard from her was a question asking if I was ok, the night of the breakup (online -_-). I've been online and I see her on chat or fb, but she hasn't had anything to do with me. She seems to be happy though, but she always does that to the outside. Been busy with college/work, and I might not get a chance to see her much at all this summer... We both did some wrong things, but I feel like my life, excluding this, is coming together. She was a big light in my life, and I in hers, but she's got a lot of distractions and ambitions too. I've learned to be patient and mindful with a lot of help. How can I possibly think about getting her back when she's so far and so busy? How do I know when to stop NC? Has anyone had similar experiences, and did it turn out ok? Link to comment
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