Queston for bisexuals

[sweetguy88]

Do you ever feel like you dont fit in ? Like you feel like you have to be gay/straight and not in the middle ?

[greywolf]

Yes, but I am used to not fitting in anywhere.

[misssmithviii]

I was very confused when I was younger - I was emotionally attracted to males, and only physically attracted to females. It's nothing to be ashamed of, I'm sorry you feel like you don't fit in, but why would you want to?

 

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[Is]

Honestly, to me it does not matter if I become fake to fit in or act like myself. I act like myself, and I don't act gay or Bisexual at all. Even though I am Bisexual and sometimes I have attraction towards other men, I act the way I am. I act like any other straight male.

 

Yes, sometimes I feel like it, but I be who I am. Most people won't know I am Bi unless I tell them. Be yourself : )

[babii doll]

um maybe in my childhood but as an adult, no not really, never felt the need to fit in.

[FathomFear]

I'm kind of curious how many bisexuals are out there. I think so many are living "the straight life" because it's the norm and doesn't cause them problems with friends/family. It will be interesting to see whether the number of people who identify as bisexual increases as society becomes more accepting.

[shuttlefish]

Interesting point Fathom Fear.^^^^^^^

 

Me, I like not fitting in. From what I've observed of society, I don't really want to be a part of it...much of it anyway.

[sweetguy88]

I am one of those bisexuals living the straight life

[pinkelephant]

I'm kind of curious how many bisexuals are out there. I think so many are living "the straight life" because it's the norm and doesn't cause them problems with friends/family. It will be interesting to see whether the number of people who identify as bisexual increases as society becomes more accepting.

 

I'm a bisexual living a straight life. Only 2 of my friends know about my bisexuality. I feel like we get judged more than gay people do. Not only do we looked upon as disgusting ... people don't even take us seriously because there are so many (stupid attention *****) girls who claim bisexuality. I'm afraid of being categorized that way. Plus, I have many friends that are good people, but would freak out if I 'came out' because we've been so close.. seen each other naked and all of that (not that I'm even interested in any of them... but i understand where they are coming from).

 

On the other hand, I like being straight, for the sake of not alienating my family and for the ability to have children naturally. But i mean, if i met a girl i really liked, these reasons wouldn't stop me from going for her at all.

[ATLstudent]

YES YES YES. Maybe thats still why i cant just say im bi, i feel i must be straight or gay...being bi might be harder that either....plus whatever gender i go with, i feel like im saying good bye to the other, so its hard to get into a relationship and not feel like i am losing something else.

[Rangafro]

I'm kind of curious how many bisexuals are out there. I think so many are living "the straight life" because it's the norm and doesn't cause them problems with friends/family. It will be interesting to see whether the number of people who identify as bisexual increases as society becomes more accepting.

 

On the other hand I wouldn't be surprised if there were some bisexuals living the gay life because they are afraid of skepticism from gay people about hanging onto hetero feelings in vain, not being able to commit to the same sex, or not being taken seriously in general.

[Loopii]

lol ive never fitted in so i am use to use it

ITS GREAT

[edomestic]

I was very confused when I was younger - I was emotionally attracted to males, and only physically attracted to females. It's nothing to be ashamed of, I'm sorry you feel like you don't fit in, but why would you want to?

 

^_^

 

Mmhmm. This

[Catdancer]

I"m just me. I enjoy sex with people. End of story. I have no need to label myself or fit in. I've decided that society should try to fit in with me.

[mack2020]

Well, most people really dont know that I am bisexual. So i guess that you can say I fit in with everyone pretty well. When my guy friends talk about girls I am not wierded out by that at all I can still jump in and talk about them as well. When my girl friends talk about guys i tend to keep quiet on that one haha but in due time i will tell them i like guys as well. But i will say it is hard being bisexual in the military one wrong move and im discharged!

[FathomFear]

Well, most people really dont know that I am bisexual. So i guess that you can say I fit in with everyone pretty well. When my guy friends talk about girls I am not wierded out by that at all I can still jump in and talk about them as well. When my girl friends talk about guys i tend to keep quiet on that one haha but in due time i will tell them i like guys as well. But i will say it is hard being bisexual in the military one wrong move and im discharged!

 

Hopefully not for long. Don't Ask, Don't Tell will likely be a thing of the past very soon, which makes sense considering most other Western countries got rid of similar policies almost 20 years ago.

[mack2020]

God I hope so. Just because i like men doesnt mean I will jack up the military system. Im not even attracted to most of the guys in my comand anyway. Im tired of being closeted. I would have came out a long time ago but the pay is pretty nice so i really cant be open about it. Most people dont even suspect that I am even bisexual.

[hexaemeron]

God I hope so. Just because i like men doesnt mean I will jack up the military system. Im not even attracted to most of the guys in my comand anyway. Im tired of being closeted. I would have came out a long time ago but the pay is pretty nice so i really cant be open about it. Most people dont even suspect that I am even bisexual.

 

Mack I have a great deal of respect for you for entering a pretty openly hostile work system to people like us (though, hopefully not hostile for much longer) to serve our country. Thank you very, very much for doing your job, so people like me are free to do ours.

[mack2020]

Mack I have a great deal of respect for you for entering a pretty openly hostile work system to people like us (though, hopefully not hostile for much longer) to serve our country. Thank you very, very much for doing your job, so people like me are free to do ours.

 

Haha Its no problem man. I just hate the fact that im bisexual and cant be too open about it in the military. I want to be an example to other soldiers that are gay or bisexual or lesbian and show them that just because we like the same sex doesnt mean that we are different than any other soldier. I do my job just as well as a straight soldier does.

[KIDD]

I'm kind of curious how many bisexuals are out there. I think so many are living "the straight life" because it's the norm and doesn't cause them problems with friends/family. It will be interesting to see whether the number of people who identify as bisexual increases as society becomes more accepting.

 

I personally believe there's a lot more Bisexual people out there than gay and straight people. I think a lot of Bi people choose to live the straight lifestyle and just hide the homosexual feelings because they know it's harder to live the gay lifestyle. So they choose to live the straight life because it's easier.. I've always thought this. Though a lot of people won't admit this..

 

I've gotten hit on by a lot of men over the years and most of these men were mostly Bisexual and in the closet, the sad part is most of them had girlfriends and were married. It's funny and in middle school and high school.. I got hit on by the guys in the football team etc, all kinds of guys. The ones that claimed they were straight and extra butch, but were quick to hit on you once no one was around. Just from those experiences alone, I will say most people are at least bisexual or bi curious..

[sweetguy88]

I dont see anything wrong with being bi and likeing both sexes. I do think were all a little bi

[Keine Lust]

I say i'm gay even though i'm bi. I don't do it to fit in, it's just that i'm rarely attracted to girls and everyone just thinks "fag in denial" when you're a guy and say you're bi anyway.

[lukeb]

Being bi is not a question of right or wrong, I guess often it is being used as an excuse to be unfaithful in a committed relationship, and that of course is wrong.

[bihubby]

Yep, I have felt like I don't fit in. The reason is, we do not fit in with either group, hell we have varying degrees of our own group.

 

Several levels of sexuality in my opinion:

 

1. Heterosexual - ONLY attracted to opposite sex emotionally & physically

2. Bisexual - More attracted to opposite sex than same sex physically & emotionally

3. Bisexual - More attracted to opposite sex emotionally but same sex physically

4. Bisexual - 100% Bi equally attracted to opposite sex and same sex emotionally & physically

5. Bisexual - More attracted to same sex emotionally but opposite sex physically

6. Bisexual - More attracted to same sex than opposite sex physically and emotionally

7. Homosexual - ONLY attracted to same sex emotionally & physically

 

Now where do these fit?

A. "bi-curious". Someone thinks they are not 1 or 7 depending on how they identify but has yet to experiment with their opposite attraction to know for sure.

B. The 1's that are closeted and will never be any different due to society pressures, so much so that they have repressed their true feelings.

C. The 7's that are 7 because it's the "in" or "cool" thing to do or are lashing out at the machine.

D. Screw labels, I'm me

 

Myself I'd say 2 or D.

 

Point is, bisexuality is very confusing and could vary depending on the way the wind blows on a certain day lol.

 

Bisexuality in a lot of cases gets the worst of both worlds. Some 1's and some 7's believe we do not even exist, probably due to the many varying types of bisexuals you see noted above.

 

If I had $1 for every time someone said, "Dude, if you're with a guy, you're flippin gay" I'd not be on Enot right now & be in sunny Florida.

 

And yea I'd agree with you that a lot of folks would come in 2-6, but not go as far as to say "everyone" is a little bi, though my wife would agree with you in saying "everyone".

 

Good luck in your struggles, just remember, I suggest no matter where you fit in the above scale, make sure D applies.

[bebelight]

YES! I'm sure some of you can relate: I used to go one moment thinking I was straight, then I'd see a hot girl and think I was gay, then a hot guy and then I'd think I was straight... and so it continued. Guys always think I'm going to leave them for girls, and girls think so for guys. But it surprises me most the lack of acceptence in the gay community.

 

But if someone asks me if I'm straight or gay, I always say half or that people are just too attractive to choose