orchidrose Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 My dad married his mistress as soon as the ink was dry on my parents' divorce. She has three kids, two daughters and a son. I also have a biological sister. I've never been extremely close with my stepsisters - one is 10 years older so I never really grew up with her, and the other is very similar to my sister, who I didn't get along with until we were adults. My sister is getting married next year and asked me to be her maid of honor. I live a few hundred miles away from her and my stepsisters, and only get home a few times a year. I was really excited about planning her bridal shower and participating in the planning through e-mail, etc. My stepsisters have completely hijacked the bridal shower from me. Right after my sister got engaged, my stepmom bought my stepsisters a bridal shower planning book and did not send one to me. When I brought it up to my dad, he said he was sure that she bought one and was going to give it to me in person when I came to visit. Guess what? Never happened. I then sent my stepsisters a Facebook message (how we rarely communicate) several weeks ago with some ideas for venues. I uploaded a bunch of documents about pricing, etc. and sent them a link, then told them to get back to me with their thoughts. I never received any response. Yesterday I got a message from one of my stepsisters asking me simply how much I was planning on spending - kind of a nasty jab at me, since I ended up having to pull out of helping out with her baby shower at the last minute last year because I had several emergencies and could not afford it. I messaged her back with a ballpark figure and asked them how that sounded and was very polite. I told her that I was sorry if I had offended them with the baby shower thing, but I was looking forward to throwing the shower. Today I get a response that says that they're going to look at two venues this weekend (neither of which they discussed with me, and neither of which are ones I was interested in or my sister suggested). They didn't send me any info on them and didn't ask me how I felt about them. Then she said that she had to be very careful with money, too, because she was going to have to buy two dresses (?!), get her hair done, get her nails done, etc. Um, aren't I going to have to do these things too, PLUS pay for the shower, as the maid of honor? I am LIVID. I have tried working with these people. They are not her sisters. I am. I have no clue what to do. I'm so sick of being put down and left out by them. Link to comment
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