jettison Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Who has done it? Count me as a recent member of the "I slept with my ex-girlfriend's sister" club. Qualifiers: - This is the ex from 4 years ago. - Step-sister - I have no interest in ever hurting the ex. Reason for posting... I feel awkward/guilty about this. She still feels off-limits to me. I didn't plan on it happening, but we had been hanging out together more and more, and it was easy to feel the chemistry between us. I don't know if it makes any difference, but this ex broke up with me and not the other way around. Is it just bad form? Link to comment
Catdancer Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 lol Jetti. I slept with his dad, brother, cousin and the cousin's girlfriend. Do I count? And depending on the mitigating circumstances, it may or may not be bad form. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 My honest opinion: yes, it's still bad form, regardless of all the qualifiers, although not as bad as it could have been. Not part of the club, and so far, not enough siblings in the exes pile to tempt me . One of my exes actually had done it with the sister of one of his exes. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 lol Jetti. I slept with his dad, brother, cousin and the cousin's girlfriend. Do I count? How does THAT work? Do they know? Link to comment
Sanesoul Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I wouldn't have gone there simply because of the possible drama, but I don't think it's that big of a deal considering the circumstances. Link to comment
Catdancer Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 How does THAT work? Do they know? Alot of the family were members of a certain sex club that I used to be involved in. It just kind of happened. And yes, they know. I dont think Jetti, was looking for someone with my exact experience, though. Link to comment
jettison Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 How does THAT work? Do they know? Agreed. Your story is a lot more interesting then mine. Link to comment
jettison Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 I wouldn't have gone there simply because of the possible drama, but I don't think it's that big of a deal considering the circumstances. Yep, don't want the drama. Usually, from my experience, people that say "I don't want any drama" are usually the people who crave drama about anything and everything else. In my case, I truly don't want the drama. Link to comment
Tarkan Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 lol Jetti. I slept with his dad, brother, cousin and the cousin's girlfriend. Do I count? And depending on the mitigating circumstances, it may or may not be bad form. lol, sounds like you are a faithful customer Link to comment
XxJustMexX Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I dated my ex's brother for a few months... but this was 10 years after my ex... Link to comment
sophie274 Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I don't think I could ever even so much as kiss someone who'd also kissed my sister, partly, I guess, out of worry that I wouldn't compare favorably. My sister's already "the fun one", I don't want her to also be "the better kisser, etc". Jettison, how serious was your relationship with the ex? I would only care if my sister hooked up with my serious relationship ex ... the other ones, joke would be on her, and I'd just laugh, but that's because I can't believe I was ever even interested in them. Link to comment
jettison Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 I don't think I could ever even so much as kiss someone who'd also kissed my sister, partly, I guess, out of worry that I wouldn't compare favorably. My sister's already "the fun one", I don't want her to also be "the better kisser, etc". Jettison, how serious was your relationship with the ex? I would only care if my sister hooked up with my serious relationship ex ... the other ones, joke would be on her, and I'd just laugh, but that's because I can't believe I was ever even interested in them. It is the very serious relationship... which has me thinking this is just wrong. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 It is the very serious relationship... which has me thinking this is just wrong. Yeah, best not go there again, I think. And if it were me I would just keep mum and fingers crossed the ex never finds out. Link to comment
george237 Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 You didn't do anything wrong, her sister did. Link to comment
IvantheAvg Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 How does the step-sister get along with your ex? The qualifiers actually...make you sound guilty as charged. Link to comment
greywolf Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Alot of the family were members of a certain sex club that I used to be involved in. It just kind of happened. And yes, they know. I dont think Jetti, was looking for someone with my exact experience, though. They were in the same sex club? I would find that extremely awkward... >_> Link to comment
jettison Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 How does the step-sister get along with your ex? The qualifiers actually...make you sound guilty as charged. I'm not sure how the qualifiers should make me any more guilty, but the guilt angle in general is pretty easy to pinpoint. I've done something that could conceivably hurt someone that I still care about. Link to comment
Catdancer Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 They were in the same sex club? I would find that extremely awkward... >_> It was mainly for couples. And trading spouses and such was the norm. When I read Jetti thread, I thought, "oh I think I qualify". lol Link to comment
IvantheAvg Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Well, you are laying down a defense. In your heart you know you are wrong. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Jettison, I want to say that it's fine - I really do, because you're a lovely person and poster, and I want to be non-judgemental!! BUT...I kind of think it's off limits If you're deeply attracted to her, then I would say go for it. If it's not a very powerful attraction I would say to not go there, because it just feels vaguely 'off' to me. How does your ex feel about it? I just think it sets up uncomfortable dynamics for the future. Good luck! And catdancer - oh my god!!! I am fairly open-minded about people's sexual experiences, but the familial relationships in that set up is mind blowing (to me, cringeworthy - I just have an image of you all around the table at christmas lunch!). Don't mean to be judgemental, that just really made me blink!!! Link to comment
greywolf Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 It was mainly for couples. And trading spouses and such was the norm. When I read Jetti thread, I thought, "oh I think I qualify". lol Like a swingers club? But the whole family was in it? ........ wow Link to comment
Catdancer Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Like a swingers club? But the whole family was in it? ........ Urg!! Wolfie...PM me. I'm trying not to derail Jetti's thread by not posting details and it's not working. lol Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I have never slept with a relative of an ex. I think that after the relationship ends there can still be some boundaries on what people will think is acceptable. In my opinion if you arent trying to hurt the ex and it was just an experience then I would take it at that. I think that with an improper motivation that sleeping with a relative could be bad form it is just going to depend on the facts of the situation. Link to comment
IvantheAvg Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Still hasn't answered what the nature of the relationship between the step-sister and the ex is. Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Cat you're colorful life make me feel like such a n00b! hehe Jetti my first thought here was - she dumped you and a long time ago so no biggie. But thinking about my exes sisters and...yeah, it is kinda bad form. I wouldn't sweat it as you're adults and whatever happens happens. But don't be surprised if the ex has a problem with you and is hurt. Link to comment
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