swlilbit84 Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Would you judge a woman because she is divorced with two kids. would that in any way change how you look at her? And do all men judge on the way the body looks(stretch marks)? would you ever date or marry a woman with baggage? Link to comment
KG Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 No prob a woman with kids. And stretch marks don't bother me. Baggage, that's a turn off, means she isn't ready to date. Link to comment
ponyboy Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Well being that im 21 with no kids...yes. 10 years from now, maybe not so much. And yes the body is very important. Link to comment
swlilbit84 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 No prob a woman with kids. And stretch marks don't bother me. Baggage, that's a turn off, means she isn't ready to date. when i said baggage i meant the kids and stuff like that. i appreciate the truth. Link to comment
sidehop Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Nope, never bothered me about kids and women that were divorced. As far as stretch marks go, not really, some physical attraction is important but such mark wouldn't be a deal breaker. Link to comment
KG Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 when i said baggage i meant the kids and stuff like that. i appreciate the truth. I tend to stay out of the picture when it comes to date and her kids. Link to comment
sidehop Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Nope, never bothered me about kids and women that were divorced. As far as stretch marks go, not really, some physical attraction is important but such mark wouldn't be a deal breaker. Link to comment
swlilbit84 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 Well being that im 21 with no kids...yes. 10 years from now, maybe not so much. And yes the body is very important. i appreciate your truth too. im only 25 so i understand where you stand. Link to comment
swlilbit84 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 I tend to stay out of the picture when it comes to date and her kids. i agree kids should not be exposed to somebody til its for certain going to be long term. especially when they are as young as mine. Link to comment
Doc Blaze Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 depends on how much baggage...my gf has twins..she divorced.....sher has been on her own for a while..has her own business with her mother...she is doing really good... Link to comment
Flywest29 Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I personally wouldn't be interested in dating a woman with kids. At my age I have access to many single ladies who don't have kids. It's nothing against women who are divorced with kids just not my preference at this stage of my life. As far as stretch marks go they are a fact of life and would not bother me at all. Link to comment
fLuiD Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 At my age, I can be very judgemental. I probably poke a lot of fun at divorced women with kids but that comes from being my age. Later in life I will more than likely look at these women differently. And stretchmarks are nothing to worry about... Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I think that everybody has certain issues in life that they present and I do not make a judgment without even knowing her. I think that a woman has to be comfortable in her own skin, no matter her body type. Her confidence is going to out shine the imperfections that she thinks she has. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Divorced no problem. Kids no problem. Stretch marks no problem. Baggage may be a problem if it is serious. I don't consider children as baggage. Fighting with the ex all the time (problem), not ready to date (problem), holding other men accountable for the ex's actions (problem), not having a job (problem), looking for a replacement daddy (problem). I am 46 and just started dating again after 22 years. I know "YIKES". I expect people that have lived a life to have certain things that come along with them just like I do. Good luck on your search for someone special. Lost Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 As long as there's no drama I don't see an issue with dating a woman with kids and is divorced. Stretch marks add character, no worries there. Link to comment
swlilbit84 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 Divorced no problem. Kids no problem. Stretch marks no problem. Baggage may be a problem if it is serious. I don't consider children as baggage. Fighting with the ex all the time (problem), not ready to date (problem), holding other men accountable for the ex's actions (problem), not having a job (problem), looking for a replacement daddy (problem). I am 46 and just started dating again after 22 years. I know "YIKES". I expect people that have lived a life to have certain things that come along with them just like I do. Good luck on your search for someone special. Lost in all honesty im not really looking. i am trying to save my marriage rightnow. i am pregnant with my son and a little girl at home already. everyone keeps telling me to move on but like everyone says you cant move on when your still madly in love. im just testing the theory that everyone tells me. it might be years from now beefore i am ready to move on but as of now i want my husband to come home. but thanks Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I saw your other thread. Google "Walk Away Wife" or Walk Away Spouse" for some insight into what he might be thinking. Also go to link removed for more help. No matter what happens there are good men out there. It might not seem like it, but there are....... Best wishes Lost Link to comment
swlilbit84 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Share Posted April 13, 2010 I saw your other thread. Google "Walk Away Wife" or Walk Away Spouse" for some insight into what he might be thinking. Also go to link removed for more help. No matter what happens there are good men out there. It might not seem like it, but there are....... Best wishes Lost thanks alot. i know there are good men out there. i have three awesome brothers and a dad who is very supportive. i was raised around a gruop of awesome people. and in all honesty my husband is a great guy also. i just cant figure out where things went wrong. i blame myself for it but somewhere inside me says that he is depressed and affraid to talk to me. i hope he wakes up soon. hes the love of my life Link to comment
shes2smart Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I am 46 and just started dating again after 22 years. I know "YIKES". I expect people that have lived a life to have certain things that come along with them just like I do. After a certain age, you stop looking for someone with "no baggage" and start looking for someone who has only, say, a carry-on and a medium-sized suitcase that matches yours. Link to comment
alvin Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I just met a divorced mother of two on link removed and she's the most amazing person I've met on there. She's absolutely beautiful...I don't care about stretch marks, but she has a rocking body anyway. I'm divorced (no kids), myself, so that matters little to me. Link to comment
IvantheAvg Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 I'm not a big fan of insta-family. Link to comment
brainfog Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 After a certain age, you stop looking for someone with "no baggage" and start looking for someone who has only, say, a carry-on and a medium-sized suitcase that matches yours. Thanks for the laugh, 2smart. I needed that one Link to comment
JusticeLaw9 Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Would you judge a woman because she is divorced with two kids. would that in any way change how you look at her? And do all men judge on the way the body looks(stretch marks)? would you ever date or marry a woman with baggage? It depends. Children and divorcees are not always the disqualifer when it comes to things like that. There are other factors that have to be considered. For instance, what has she been doing with herself since then? Is she emotionally healthy and ready for something serious or is she just rebounding it? What are her kids like and what kind of mother is she? More dynamics get thrown into the pot. Now, you might find some that don't care about those kind of things, everybody wants something different. However, if one were to be looking for something with longterm potential then they have to ask those questions. Link to comment
Lucius Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 Would you judge a woman because she is divorced with two kids. would that in any way change how you look at her? And do all men judge on the way the body looks(stretch marks)? would you ever date or marry a woman with baggage? I wouldn't rule someone out just because they were divorced, no. I'd even be open to dating someone with kids - but it would certainly make me pause. As for the stretch marks - most people have them. I couldn't care less. The baggage is different. Everyone has a history; not everyone has (significant or equal) baggage. Depending on what that baggage was, it could well be prohibitive, yes. But a divorced woman, with kids, and an imperfect (but healthy) body - and a history, but the emotional maturity to effectively process it and move forward? Sure, nothing there is a deal-breaker - for dating or marriage. But some of the details would, as I say, make me pause. Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted April 15, 2010 Share Posted April 15, 2010 hmm, actually I'm with a divorced woman with 3 kids! Link to comment
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