mrvaughn Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 I met this girl last week and we ended up back at hers & slept together. We went on a date last night (a meal and then drinks at a bar) & it went rather well. Her last train was at 10:30pm, so she drove into the city so we had more time together. We got a taxi back to her car around 3am & we both sat inside & made out for a while. I suggested a hotel and she said that she didn't want to come accross as that sort of girl. I told her that it was fine and kinda better as it showed that she wouldn't just jump into bed with me. I got the impression that she thought I wouldn't contact her again, although I said I would. I got a taxi back home, and on the way she sent me a text to say that she liked me, but she was concerned that I was just after one thing. Of course I reassured her and told her I definitely want to see her again. She accepted that and explained that she was used to guys trying to use her and when they didn't get 'it' she has never heard from them again. I guess after sleeping with me the first time she didn't want to seem like that kind of girl....and i'm glad she didn't go for it this time as I like her enough to see her again and i'm glad she has a bit of something about her. But what do you guys think of this 'guys messing her about' thing. Do you think it could be a red-flag? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uj2004 Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 Sleeping with her on the first date is the red flag! Just enjoy this one....the chances you are going to be with her long term are slim and none. You have just climbed the mountain on the first date - where is there to grow from here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 10, 2010 Author Share Posted April 10, 2010 Sleeping with her on the first date is the red flag! Just enjoy this one....the chances you are going to be with her long term are slim and none. You have just climbed the mountain on the first date - where is there to grow from here? No, we slept together when we met last week. Last night was the first date & she didn't want to sleep with me because we slept together that time & doesn't want me to think she's that type of girl. She's an intelligent girl..studing biochemical engineering, lol As I say, i'm glad she didn't want to go for it. As, had we slept together, i'd be thinking she was that type of girl. Not sleeping with me this time shows a bit of character, wouldn't you agree?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chandanimane Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 Sleeping with you when you first met tells you that she has been exactly that kind of girl no matter what she claims. That's not to say that she's a who just wants to sleep around for the fun of it. She could be a girl who is sincerely looking for a serious relationship, but she has a misguided way of going about it. When she sleeps with a guy that soon, of course she's going to attract men who are only after one thing. There is no different in her body language between 'this is only going to be a one-time thing until we become more serious' and 'I'm going to have sex with you over and over again for as long as you want it'. After a meeting like that, a guy wouldn't know what she's after. This also tells you that she has probably done this kind of thing before with other men, considering how fast she slept with you and the comment she made about other guys wanting her for one thing only. Like I said, my guess is that she has been that kind of girl up until now. If it's been a serious relationship she was after all along, she could change and be totally loyal and faithful to you. That's something you'll have to find out as you get to know her. I'm sensing that she might have some character, but that she may have been engaging in behavior that was harming herself and sending out the wrong message to men in general. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScubaDiva Posted April 10, 2010 Share Posted April 10, 2010 Some people have bad luck in terms of choosing a partner and maybe that's why she's had problems with other guys - maybe misguided principles learned growing up - such is life hey! So what if you slept together on the first night - I know people who have been together for over 10 years that slept together on the first night - it all depends on what you as individuals are looking for. Sometimes the sex is so mind blowing, you won't want to let go. Just enjoy it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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