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I'm still a novice when it comes to sex, but I have been trying to educate myself so I can be a better lover. My boyfriend told me that he doesn't usually ejaculate from blow jobs and a couple guys I know have said the same. I'm just wondering if this is true for most guys.

 

I've been able to get my boyfriend to ejaculate and really enjoy giving blow jobs. He swears I have "mad skills" to quote him, but I still think I can do better. I just wonder about building up to the actual blow job. Usually I kiss his mouth and do a little kissing trail down, but was wondering if there were any other ways to tease or increase the pleasure for him. Also, when I start to get to the main event, I tend to go straight to it. I haven't tried do any playful things, like tongue flicking on the end or kissing, since I read an article that the male author said guys hate the slow approach and just want you to go at it. Is that really true?

 

During the blow job my jaw does get tired, I don't want to stop though because I don't want to ruin it for him. I have tried short breaks while just using my hands. I really worry that the break in stride makes the experience less intense for him. I really try to give him variety, but I know that he thinks a hand job is still a hand job. Are my breaks a bad move?

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My boyfriend told me that he doesn't usually ejaculate from blow jobs and a couple guys I know have said the same. I'm just wondering if this is true for most guys.

 

Some guys don't I have heard, although I have never understood HOW they wouldn't...

 

I just wonder about building up to the actual blow job. Usually I kiss his mouth and do a little kissing trail down, but was wondering if there were any other ways to tease or increase the pleasure for him. Also, when I start to get to the main event, I tend to go straight to it. I haven't tried do any playful things, like tongue flicking on the end or kissing, since I read an article that the male author said guys hate the slow approach and just want you to go at it. Is that really true?

 

I don't think all men want you to go straight at it. Some like to be teased. Once you are doing the main event do you use your tongue still? I read this article one time where you can blind fold him and then touch him there with different stuff (ie a feather, your hand, your boob, ice, etc.), create different sensations for him.

 

During the blow job my jaw does get tired, I don't want to stop though because I don't want to ruin it for him. I have tried short breaks while just using my hands. I really worry that the break in stride makes the experience less intense for him. I really try to give him variety, but I know that he thinks a hand job is still a hand job. Are my breaks a bad move?

 

Nope. I will tell any man that complains about a woman taking a break during a blow job because her jaw hurts to get down and do the same thing on a woman and not take a break for 30 minutes.. bet they won't complain ever again.

 

We all have to take breaks.Even the porn stars do. I think. lol Besides, variety works in your favor sometimes. He never knows when you will resume the pleasure.

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I don't think all men want you to go straight at it. Some like to be teased. Once you are doing the main event do you use your tongue still? I read this article one time where you can blind fold him and then touch him there with different stuff (ie a feather, your hand, your boob, ice, etc.), create different sensations for him.

I use my tongue when I can. I've considered trying either ice water or mints to see how that makes him feel. I know he enjoys what I do, he was really turned on when he took a few pictures during the last bj, he says the visual is great

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I use my tongue when I can. I've considered trying either ice water or mints to see how that makes him feel. I know he enjoys what I do, he was really turned on when he took a few pictures during the last bj, he says the visual is great

 

Yeah when I do them my tongue is ALWAYS working. I may break for a few seconds but go right back at it. Some guys can handle ice water or ice, sometimes it's too much. I never understood what mints were suppose to do..

 

lol, seeing as I am in a LDR I have to agree with him, visuals are the best.

 

There is nothing wrong with wanting to find out more options though. I find I am one of the few women who actually enjoy doing it and am still trying to find new and exciting things to do.

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I just try not to ejaculate, because if I did, there wouldn't be much more I could do in the sack. Well, aside from reciprocating, but still...

Sure, I understand that, but he said he usually can't. I don't mind if he's in a coma afterward and I don't get any thing from it, I love snuggling and knowing he feels great.

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excuse me? no. that seems to be ALL he wants anymore. JUST that. It's like I have to talk in him into intercourse, or anything else to please me. HE is the selfish one. so thanks for judging before you know the whole story.

 

You just took that completely the wrong way. He meant your guy was being selfish.

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My boyfriend has always been amazed at my skills and I have many ways of performing this (and yes I'm slightly conceited in this matter) - and my greatest suggestion to you is to 'make-out' with it. In fact, treat it like his mouth but get sloppy. This is my approach of "getting right to it" while maintaining a teasing-factor. Start out slow and romantic, wide-mouthed and nearly drooling; then build up to it.

 

I've never needed to use any other objects or stimulating products of any sort however have made a point to be able to get a man to that point of ejaculation whenever I want, on command - even if that means within the next 10 seconds.

 

Other things: flashing those beautiful eyes at him every now and then // kneeling and while keeping your mouth open, dragging your lips along the bottom of it while using your tongue erratically and your fingers to give him that hand-action while twisting slightly whenever you reach the tip (corkscrew)

 

For your jaws' sake - relax your jaw around it for a second to rest without taking your mouth off of it, and if you can - continue on using just the rubbing of your throat to keep it going.

 

If he is uncircumcised, I can give more suggestions because let's face it - there are many, many more possibilities for pleasing him.

 

Hope that helped while remaining "allowable" to post

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I tried other stuff like licking and sucking on his balls. Like, sometimes one at a time, sometimes I'll have both in my mouth and when I'm doing that I'll give him a hand job at the same time. It feels really funny I think, and it only really works if he shaves his balls. When I touch his 'chode' his body jerks from a surprise but he totally loves it.

 

There's a whole art to it. You gotta make love to the penis... you gotta make it feel like it's the most important penis in the world. Sometimes - it helps to watch porn.. that's how i got tips. So if ever I'm like "Uhhh.. what do I do" I try to imagine what those girls were doing in the videos I've seen and I'll act it out. I mean that's only when you first start out. I think if you really like giving blow jobs, it'll just become natural to you. You'll probably develop your own style.

 

good luck!

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Hmm the way I normally start a sesh that I've prepared for him is an oil massage - make him relaxed. Then I nibble and bite his torso to wake him up. Whisper sweet nothings and tell him no - he cant use his hands, only his eyes and do the naughty "slap on the wrist" when he tries. Kiss the area around his genitals, use lube on his balls and the bit of skin underneath. Bite, nibble, twist, face with your ass in his face, TBH I only use my mouth was he's so strung and red in the face that it tends not to take very long when my tongue makes contact lol. I alternate between long passionate kisses and going down. The way to put it is "make love to his penis" with your mouth. Satisfying my partner is probably even better than getting satisfied. Could be because he's usually very kind and surprised (not like the other d*&kheads I've dated in the past). GL sounds like fun! ^^

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excuse me? no. that seems to be ALL he wants anymore. JUST that. It's like I have to talk in him into intercourse, or anything else to please me. HE is the selfish one. so thanks for judging before you know the whole story.

 

Hey, like other people said I really meant it that your bf is being selfish not you.

 

Would suck to be in that position where the person just cares about his own pleasure...

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I like to give him little massages, some times they lead to more, other times its just a nice way of saying I like your junk. I am just learning how he like his balls addressed, I know everything is so sensitive so I'm not sure how to progress, I worry I might hurt him. I've massaged his prostate a couple of times and that really gets him making noise. I use my hands in other ways, but he has a water bed, so I need to steady myself at times.

 

I really enjoy doing this for him. To be honest, I never expected to be into it. I've heard so many women on here, in articles, and in real life say a lot of negative things about fellatio, the spit or swallow discussion, and how selfish guys can be about it.

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Men.....do you like the girl to suck on the tip of the penis????

 

 

And if her top is off..is that the ''visual''' you are talking about seeing her breasts hanging there for you to umm look at and play with?

 

 

 

Thanks!!!!

 

I think it's pretty safe to say a guy is going to like anything of his down there sucked on..

 

Eye contact is the best visual. For you and him.

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It is very normal for guys to say "i dont ejaculate from blow jobs" and it is more of a playful lie. While this can be true what the guy is really saying is that he will only ejaculate if the girl is good (according to what he likes) and because he wants to give the girl a goal to strive for.

 

If you want to get better at giving blow jobs then pay attention to what he likes, use your hands and your mouth at the same time, dont be neat, know what he likes and tease him a little but and last but not lease be nasty with it.

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