Tasha1675 Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Having a down day today Just found out that my ex has de-tagged himself from my friend's photos of us together on Facebook. I know, I know, it's been almost 6 months and it's a perfectly understandable thing to do now we are not together but he's only done it in the last couple of months and it just makes me feel sad. I feel like he is now happily completely erasing me from his life, which probably is normal too. I guess I am just not over it yet, feel miserable Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I'm sorry you're having a down day. We ALL have them, BELIEVE ME I KNOW. You have NO IDEA if he's "completely happy" erasing you from his life...maybe he deleted you because it was too hard to be reminded? Just some food for thought. Link to comment
goodkarma_1 Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 hey, i know it sucks I know what your feeling but what can we do? I don't know your back story but your not with him for a reason and maybe its for the better. Perhaps him de-tagging your photos doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to have anything to do with you..it could be that he just doesn't want any memories because it hurts him to see them as well. You don't know what hes thinking and besides men deal with these things differently I believe. Take time for yourself today and let yourself feel what you need to feel but try not to dwell on it. Tomorrow you'll feel better and even better the day after. Hang in there Link to comment
fLuiD Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Yeah don't read too much into some of these things. It could be many reasons why he is doing this. Unfortunately, we cant tap into our exes minds and really know what is going on in their heads. Link to comment
Tasha1675 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Thanks everyone. Yeah I have no idea what is going through his mind, maybe that's a good thing, I don't know. I just feel like I am trying to be so strong all of the time and then I find out something so small like this and it makes me feel really crap. Uh, I hate my feelings! I so wish I couldn't care less! Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Thanks everyone. Yeah I have no idea what is going through his mind, maybe that's a good thing, I don't know. I just feel like I am trying to be so strong all of the time and then I find out something so small like this and it makes me feel really crap. Uh, I hate my feelings! I so wish I couldn't care less! Just a suggestion...stay OFF his facebook site for a while. Just RESIST the urge, no matter HOW strong it gets. You might find something on there that is more upsetting. Link to comment
Tasha1675 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Just a suggestion...stay OFF his facebook site for a while. Just RESIST the urge, no matter HOW strong it gets. You might find something on there that is more upsetting. I'm not on his facebook When we broke up I deleted myself from facebook to avoid all this. I recently created a new account and just added my own friends. I was chatting to a friend earlier and that's when she said she'd noticed he'd de-tagged himself from her photos of me and him together. I've been so good at maintaining NC over the last 6 months, have completely deleted everything to do with him and I guess he is now doing the same Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I'm not on his facebook When we broke up I deleted myself from facebook to avoid all this. I recently created a new account and just added my own friends. I was chatting to a friend earlier and that's when she said she'd noticed he'd de-tagged himself from her photos of me and him together. I've been so good at maintaining NC over the last 6 months, have completely deleted everything to do with him and I guess he is now doing the same Well, maybe he removed you because you removed him? I dunno...but NC is probably a good idea. Tell your friends that you no longer wish to hear about his Facebook activity to avoid things like this in the future... Link to comment
Tasha1675 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Well, maybe he removed you because you removed him? I dunno...but NC is probably a good idea. Tell your friends that you no longer wish to hear about his Facebook activity to avoid things like this in the future... Yeah maybe...there's a million possible reasons. I just wish I didn't care! I will ask my friend not to tell me, I guess she meant well but I'm clearly better off not knowing! Link to comment
prada Posted April 9, 2010 Share Posted April 9, 2010 Sigh... i hate the "down" days. Its sucks that we have to go tru this. But stop dwelling on it like i do, lol as time pass you will be fine. (if i could only listen to myself) relax and watch a movie. Let him do whatever he wants. You will get over this! Link to comment
Forgiven Posted April 9, 2010 Share Posted April 9, 2010 Hey Tasha! Be strong. Like everyone said here, we have all been there. Just recognize that these are feelings and feelings are not permanent - they go away. Remember, think of these feelings as though you have a headache. What do you do when you have a headache? Do you scream, cry, attack someone with a club? If you are Tiger Wood's wife, then maybe. Usually, though, you just let it take its course, accept it and let it pass. Headache = Heartache ---> It will pass. Link to comment
Tasha1675 Posted April 9, 2010 Author Share Posted April 9, 2010 Thank you everyone! Your comments all really help I feel a bit better today. Uh, I just have to try and not let this stuff get to me. Forgiven - you are so right! These stupid feelings will go away eventually. I agree with you about Tiger Woods' wife hehe! Link to comment
nomad0792 Posted April 9, 2010 Share Posted April 9, 2010 Yeah Tasha- I have had some friends do things like this as well. It's been 5 months today of NC. I still think about her more than I should and it consumes a big part of my day. My good friend texted me asking if I was at a party. Party? No, I'm at dinner. Why? I asked. She said cos she thinks she saw my ex at this party. Well, if she did, why the hell would she think I'd be there?!! Anyways, she'd never met her in person, so she went up to her and asked her if her name was **** and she said no, so it was a big relief. BUT, I don't want to know anything about what my ex is up to and it seems really insensitive that my friend would bother me with something like this. UGGGGGHHHH! The thing is, my ex is very distinctive and not too many women look like her so I'm wondering if this girl lied about her name to my friend and it really was her. WHY? Well, my ex is bi and she was hitting on my friend AND she said her name was ****, which is her mom's name. Just weird coincidences and my damn conspiracy theories. I just never loved a woman like this and my friends just don't understand the pain that I feel. That's why I tell them I don't want to know anything...ever!!! When I'm fine with hearing what she's up to will be when I know I'm over her. Until then, zero information about her is what I need. Cos, I know how this * * * * effects me. Oh well, we move onward and upward and one day we won't give a crap what they are doing. Best of luck to you!!! Link to comment
Tasha1675 Posted April 11, 2010 Author Share Posted April 11, 2010 Hey nomad, yeah this stuff is really hard. That's weird about the girl at the party, but like you say, you just don't need to hear this stuff. I heard that my ex has been in town and he hasn't bothered to say hi. Apparently he's having a knee operation too which he was waiting for when we were together. I wish I could give him a call and see how he is doing. Hospitals are horrible and I know he has no family around him...BUT it's his loss, and it's his own fault if he feels miserable on his own! Link to comment
Blackey Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 Dont worry Tasha, its for the best, this way you will have no connection with him at all on facebook, its just sometimes when u r tagged on a picture and someone comment, it shows on ur update, then u enter the picture and see urself with your ex, and it gets only worst from there so in a way it wasnt a bad thing. There is no point to talk to your emotions in a logical way, emotions never listen to logic, so just try to be strong there, time does heal all wounds. In the meantime i gonna give you a big hug, besides of being a great kisser, im even a better hugger so i'll give you a hug that will make you forget about your ex and perhaps forget everything else And remember, in the end it will always be good, and if it is not good yet, it meant that it is not the end Link to comment
prada Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 Im having a pretty down day today. I heard my ex mite be getting engaged to the girl he left me for. Isnt that sad? ive been out of it since and dont want to do anything but lay in bed.... So hang in there. You will see in the end, it will be amazing. Im still waiting on that. Have a good sunday! enjoy it Link to comment
mushmouth Posted April 11, 2010 Share Posted April 11, 2010 Do something positive for yourself everyday to help pick yourself up. Trust me, it works wonders. Seriously, every day just treat yourself to something. Link to comment
adamt Posted April 12, 2010 Share Posted April 12, 2010 hang in there. the down days will come and go and be less frequent over time. sometimes i wake up and fee down. way i get through it is keep busy and have stuff organised in the medium and short term to focus on. i'm approaching 12 months since my split. i have to stop myself thinking too deep on it all. I cant believe how quick the year has gone but thats because i have just kept myself busy and got new hobbies. Link to comment
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