mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 So i'm going on a date with this girl I met last week. We've already slept together, but as i'm a little inexperienced I wondered if i could get some opinions on something quite basic: Bum Hair, lol hahaha I was wondering how girls feel about this? I've not a lot on my bum as such, but a bit between the cheeks and along the ridge before my grapefruits, lol I always trim my pubic hair around my genitals, but should I do this to the hair at the back too? Sorry for the naivety, but as I say...little inexperienced & don't want anything daft to put this girl off...she's nice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheeks18 Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Lol, Im not a chick and i dont have a preference on a guys BUM hair....but I highly doubt any women cares about it...I mean nothing is going to be inserted into this area...I HOPE!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petite Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Has she given you hints that the likes bare men? I say go for it, if for nothing but the experience. You got nothing to lose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Honestly, most women dont seem to have a problem with bum hair on men. So, as long as the hair is trim around your penis and balls so that she isnt hacking up a hairball after oral, you should be fine! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 OK great...thanks. Next question: I'm quite a thin guy, but wear it well. The only problem is my arms...they can be pretty veiny from time to time (dunno why more sometimes than others) and it can be quite obvious. Is this something that would put anyone off??? lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petite Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Veiny arms are hot! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petite Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 As long as it's not drug related or something equally disturbing though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HouseKitten Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Veins - can't say I never notice that kind of thing on a man! Some things you notice yourself because you spend every day looking at yourself, but other people are far less likely to see them like you do. Hair - I love male body hair my man is pretty hairy all over, including around that, ahem, area, and I just think it's lovely! I would not trim it - it'll have blunt edges then, I like male hair more because it tends to be very soft and fluffy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Veiny arms are hot! Would you say so? Even on a thin dude? A couple of people have said...and I quote..."ehh that's horrible" lol. Although these were people I have known for a long time and only said that after I drew attention to it myself (and I wear t-shirts a lot) And no...not drug related at all, lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I"ve never even thought about veiny arms. Trust me, when I'm newly dating a guy the veins on his arms are the LAST thing that I think about. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FathomFear Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Lol, Im not a chick and i dont have a preference on a guys BUM hair....but I highly doubt any women cares about it...I mean nothing is going to be inserted into this area...I HOPE!! Why not? It is where the male g-spot is located, after all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Why not? It is where the male g-spot is located, after all. lol...I was going to add to my post, but decided against it. But after your post, I will add: I have screwed men anally before with a dildo and it does help if there is less hair there. I hestiated to post because he sounded pretty new to sex and I thought this would scare the hell out of him. But who knows. Maybe his gf will feel freaky and stroke his g-spot. If so, then you would want to trim the bum hair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 OK here is the biggie...we've slept together already but had problems getting 'it' in at first. Then it was fine & managed ok. Bit worried this will happen again as it really put me off at first. Think I got it in by accident after a couple of shots. I've only slept with 4 girls & only once on each occasion but i've been drunk each time, lol. My understanding is that the opening within the vaginal lips is the lower part of the genitals...am i right here. Feel stupid asking these questions when i've had sex a few times already (didn't get any complaints though, lol) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Yes, when you part the outer vaginal lips, the clit is up top and below, if you spread the inner vaginal lips, you will find "the hole". That is the one you want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Yes, when you part the outer vaginal lips, the clit is up top and below, if you spread the inner vaginal lips, you will find "the hole". That is the one you want. So i'm best to spread the lips first then? (rather than just trying to force it through regardless of lubrication, lol) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Since this is pretty new to you, have you just explored her vagina before? In the light, so that you can see it? I think that would be best, but if not possible, then I would definate use some lube. KY or astroglide and in a pinch, spit...lube up your penis, get on top of her, balance with one hand while you struggle like hell to spread her lips and insert your penis at the same time. It is hard and it is awkward. If you are on top, can you ask her to reach down and put it in herself. I do this all the time. It's easier since I tend to know exactly where my vagina is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 It is hard and it is awkward. If you are on top, can you ask her to reach down and put it in herself. I do this all the time. It's easier since I tend to know exactly where my vagina is. Well i would prefer her to put it in, but a) does this not really spoil the mood if i say "ehh, help?" lol and b) would maybe reveal my inexperience when i had trouble the last time...I put it down to drink the last time, but it won't be a valid excuse this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Well i would prefer her to put it in, but a) does this not really spoil the mood if i say "ehh, help?" lol and b) would maybe reveal my inexperience when i had trouble the last time...I put it down to drink the last time, but it won't be a valid excuse this time. It is very hard to balance on one hand and try to hit the hole. Most women know that. And since I know it's hard to do, I just do it myself. lol If you make it funny, get on top and be like "would you like to do the honors?" and then smile really sexy! make it fun!! Sex should be crazy, sweaty, messy hot and fun! To be honest, even the most experienced men will often have a hard time trying to put it in. It's an awkward angle and just plain hard to do. If there is some light, you can get on top, and then sit back on your haunches and insert the head into her vagina and then push it in when you put your arms up by her head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Ok I'm jumping on on this one regarding the whole "spreading the lips" thing. You don't have to spread them using two hands or even one hand. Your penis can do that. Here's what you do: when you're on top of her, hold your penis so as to guide it. Using the tip, start at the stop of her vagina and run it down. Between the lube on the condom (if you're wearing one) and her natural lube, it should spread very easily; it's not sealed shut. By the time you reach the hole, you can just push it in gently (don't ram her!). Don't overthink it! It'll be fine. As for the bum hair, of all the guys I've been with, I've never once said "wait! Let me first examine how much hair is on your ass before we go any further" and I'm sure no girl would. As long as you keep it neat and clean, it shouldn't be a problem (unless, like cat said, you want her to play around in between your cheeks, at which point shaving is best!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 If you make it funny, get on top and be like "would you like to do the honors?" and then smile really sexy! That does sound pretty good Guess part of it the last time too was that i was hard when receiving oral...but when i wanted to put it in...the difficulty was making me lose my erection Perhaps if i feel uncomfortable/unsure at any point I should just admit to being a little inexperienced? Although I'm (wait for it) 26!!! ahahaha and she's 22. Would it not be a little unsexy for a guy who is 4 years older to be so inexperienced (and telling you as such)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 Dont admit to being inexperienced. Just be like...ok..i need a little help here and laugh. it should be fun! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Ok I'm jumping on on this one regarding the whole "spreading the lips" thing. You don't have to spread them using two hands or even one hand. Your penis can do that. Here's what you do: when you're on top of her, hold your penis so as to guide it. Using the tip, start at the stop of her vagina and run it down. Between the lube on the condom (if you're wearing one) and her natural lube, it should spread very easily; it's not sealed shut. By the time you reach the hole, you can just push it in gently (don't ram her!). Don't overthink it! It'll be fine. This sounds like a sensible technique. So just start at where the lips meet at the top and slide down.? I understand not a good idea to 'ram it' lol, but I should apply a gradual pressure as i go, yes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puddincup Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 OK here is the biggie...we've slept together already but had problems getting 'it' in at first. Then it was fine & managed ok. Bit worried this will happen again as it really put me off at first. Think I got it in by accident after a couple of shots. I've only slept with 4 girls & only once on each occasion but i've been drunk each time, lol. My understanding is that the opening within the vaginal lips is the lower part of the genitals...am i right here. Feel stupid asking these questions when i've had sex a few times already (didn't get any complaints though, lol) Finding the hole is not just a problem for inexperienced guys. Experienced guys seem to have problems finding it too. Don't worry about it. Just guide it in and if you hit the wrong place, trust me, the woman will tell you it's in the wrong place. I have helped many a lover guide it in and never once thought anything of it. You are overthinking all of this. Try to enjoy it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catdancer Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 This sounds like a sensible technique. So just start at where the lips meet at the top and slide down.? I understand not a good idea to 'ram it' lol, but I should apply a gradual pressure as i go, yes? Apply pressure as you slide down, as the hole is at the bottom of the slit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrvaughn Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Thanks guys! Put my mind at rest... This forum is a real help at times. Helped me get over my first love (who turned out to be a psycho who lied about being raped and lied about having a kid) and it's helping me out with my sex problem, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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