bicksford Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I don't know what I really hope to come from writing this, I think if anything I just need to vent. Is it unusual for two people to believe that they are completely different people and still exist harmoniously? My girlfriend is one of the most social people I know. She could make a friend in 10 seconds, whereas I could spend a year in a school and not know anybody. She needs to go outdoors or be productive, she wakes up early. I can spend hours inside and by myself, and like to sleep in. She likes to drink with friends and never doubts our relationship, I find myself doubting a lot, and worrying. It's in my nature. And I don't care to drink. Right now she's out with friends having drinks. She had a... "colorful" past before we met, and I still get jealous very easily. I'm worried she's dressed up right now and flirting with people (we're in diff. colleges). I can't tell if maybe I'm just tired and stressed from this week, but sometimes I just get this feeling that she is getting bored of the things that we do... but she never admits it. She just doesn't seem as happy to be "just us" together. What does all this mean? Care to analyze? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 It means that you have too much time on your hands. Seriously, as long as there are no reasons to mistrust her or doubt her word, then trust that your relationship is in good standing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ljoy74 Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 If she's not doubting it and she's not doing anything behind your back, you have a great girl. We women tend to be the over analyzers in relationships. And opposites do attract. It can be fascinating learning about someone different than you. Just make sure at the end of the day the 2 of you have something to relate back too. Take up a hobby and cure your over active imagination! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bicksford Posted April 8, 2010 Author Share Posted April 8, 2010 Thanks for the responses. You both mention ways of spending time so I don't think about it. I'm actually very busy. Full time student and working way into the night, often getting little or no sleep. It doesn't help though when I'm busting my butt studying and she's out drinking and hanging out with a bunch of hippies who smoke weed all day. makes me a little nervous Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mousey789 Posted April 8, 2010 Share Posted April 8, 2010 I don't think you need to worry. I'm in a very similar situation. My boyfriend has a "colorful" past, and is very sociable and enjoys drinking and smoking with friends, while I spend much of my time on campus studying, and I don't care for drinking either . However, he usually has his friends over at his own place or goes to theirs, and also invites me much of the time, so I don't really have to worry about him much. He's actually the one that worries about our relationship because he thinks I'm too good for him! But I know that if I ever do feel any worry, I can talk to him about it and he'll be understanding. Communication is really the key here. Let her know whats bothering you and talk it out, but also be willing to listen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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