More advice needed

[son1]

Thanks you two.

[3boys]

My husband went through a similar situation with his step-grandma most of his life. Since his twin sisters were "blood" and he was a "ba$tard child" (yes, an EXACT quote), he (and his mom, since she was "used goods" another exact quote) were never treated as well as his sisters and his step-dad. And, my kids, even though they were the only "grandkids" she ever knew, also got the short end of the stick. It bothered him, just like it bothers you, but he had to stop dwelling on it because he couldn't live with the constant conflict. I admit, there were times he was really hurt by it (like when she passed away and left his sisters trust funds worth over half a million each and everything else to his step-father ONLY and neither he, his mother, nor our children got jack squat-I think it was his mother that hurt him the most because she wasn't mentioned at ALL in the will-after 30+ years of marriage to his step-dad), but he realized it was a problem that SHE had, it had nothing to do with HIM. I think if you can get to that point, you'll be a much happier person.

[turnera]

I can top that. My husband's mom was Italian. She married a Pole. Apparently those groups hate each other. Anyway, my husband has black hair, Italian nose, Italian all the way. His brother and sister have light brown hair, light eyes, and look Polish. When they would visit his dad's parents, my husband wasn't allowed in their house! He had to sit out on the porch the whole visit. Because he looked Italian.

[DN]

I can top that. My husband's mom was Italian. She married a Pole. Apparently those groups hate each other. Anyway, my husband has black hair, Italian nose, Italian all the way. His brother and sister have light brown hair, light eyes, and look Polish. When they would visit his dad's parents, my husband wasn't allowed in their house! He had to sit out on the porch the whole visit. Because he looked Italian.

His parents should have refused to allow that woman to see any of her grandchildren at all.

[3boys]

Whenever I hear stories like this about in-laws or families from hell, I thank god that my family was never like this and that my mother/father-in-law love me They couldn't stand my husband's first wife, but were at least polite to her...then again, NOBODY liked her (she cheated on him with her abusive ex-husband before the wedding and he stupidly did the "prove you won't do it again by marrying me NOW" thing--they lasted exactly 8 months (Oct 15-June 15)from the day they got married at the courthouse to the day their divorce, because she cheated with her ex-husband AGAIN, was final~LOL!)