nikkk Posted April 7, 2010 Share Posted April 7, 2010 My ex and I have been through a long bumpy ride that always leads to him ending it. We've been on and off since 2005 and it's 2010- 5 years! I find out things about him with other girls while we were together-- no cheating. Mainly flirtatious texting, calling each other... ect! With that being said, the things he has done made it hard for me to trust him so I was very insecure about everything. During our break ups, I would see him out at the clubs and after a while, we ended up meeting up late at night... That's when I found out I was pregnant. Of course, we got back together. But my insecurities remained. That's where I was wrong! Him on the other hand, he changed a lot... I not once found anything with any girls, no texts or phone calls.. I let my insecurities get to me! I know that's wrong, but I couldn't help it... Our daughter is already 9 months old... We got into this argument and he told me I should move back home. I did... then he ended up breaking up with me! I cried and begged him, telling him that I would change.. that I was changing.. but he's hard to crack. Once he makes up his mind, it's set! But-- he said he would think about us being together but just not living together. After a week-- he tells me that he does want to be together. So we get back together again! three days later, he tells me that he's sorry, and that he doesn't want to be faking anything. And that he doesn't love me anymore. What the heck is this!? I need some advice asap please!?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mca1975 Posted April 7, 2010 Share Posted April 7, 2010 Tell him he is dumped, and go on your own the baby! You can get help cant you. You cant spend all your energy trying to make him want to be with you, you shouldnt have to should you x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imogen Posted April 7, 2010 Share Posted April 7, 2010 Move on.. Focus on you and baby. I brought my son up alone (did see his dad at weekends) and it was the most amazing experience of my life. I too have had a relationship for the past 4 years with a guy who kept walking out on me. He left in September and I let him back 3 weeks later against my better judgement. Well he has just (5 weeks ago) left me again and the next day hitched up with one of my best friends. They are apparently already in love and have booked a holiday! My heart feels broken and I am on my knees with grief. Don't allow this guy to do to you what I have had done to me. Think of you and the baby and what kind of future you want for both of you. If you have made or make it too easy for this guy to trample all over you then you may end up being treated like you are worthless as I have allowed myself to be treated. Then you will not only be dealing with the breakup but also the sense of shame and betrayal or a total loss of confidence which comes with further hurt. Don't let this happen to you. I regret with all my heart that I have allowed myself to be such a victim in all of this instead of walking away when I knew deep down that was exactly what I should do. Good luck.. Thinking of you.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mca1975 Posted April 7, 2010 Share Posted April 7, 2010 Sorry to both the poster and to Imogen, thinking of you both! You both deserve better than that, HUGS x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DontGetStung Posted April 7, 2010 Share Posted April 7, 2010 Seems like he tried to get back with you for the sake of the baby, but realized it just wouldn't work. Is he a good father to the child? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikkk Posted April 7, 2010 Author Share Posted April 7, 2010 Yeah, he's a great father! I feel so stupid because I love him so much and I still want to be with him... It's just, he's never said this to me before! I really do need to move on. But the only way I can think about moving on is by moving away! Anyway, thank you everyone for your advice, I really appreciate it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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