Lunch with the x

[winchester3]

Today i went out for lunch with my x girlfriend, she suggested it. This was the first time seeing each other since we broke up over a year ago. I'll admit i was feeling a little nervous and had slight loss of appetite, not as nervous as she was tho. At least that's what i think it was. She was really fidgety, playing with her fingers, rings, necklace, straw in her cup, flipping the front page of the menu back and fourth, frequently repositioning her arms, and on top of that she was a non stop chatty Cathy. I didn't have to say much at all.

 

For me it was a nice friendly encounter. It was weird, felt like no time had passed at all between us. Like 2 old friends just eating lunch and catching up. So it came for time to pay and the waitress asks, "One bill or 2?" here there was a bit of a pause between us, sort of looked back at each other with a look of "Is this a date or just lunch?". It was like 15 seconds of me glancing at the waitress then back at Mel until i sort of asked her "two?".

 

It was a really nice day out so while walking her to her car i asked if she had to be anywhere right away. She didn't so we went for a walk. Again i didn't have to say much at all, it was 85% her just talking. The thought came through my head "I wonder what it would be like to kiss her, would she kiss back?". Wasn't trying to get anywhere with it, we don't even live in the same province. Told myself that I'd do it if we had one of those movie moments, didn't happen tho. It was nice, just cruised around for an hour or so. The nice to see ya hug was one armed from her, but i got both arms on the goodbye.

 

I am very happy with the way things turned out. There it is, the post lunch review. Comment please.

[Clarity]

Good to hear you had a good feeling from it. I had a very similar lunch a couple of years ago, except in that one my ex directly asked me "I want to try again", but I did not want to.

 

The funny thing is, I paid for that lunch - she is still a friend and I often treat my friends. If you want to get back with her, why wouldn't you offer to pay?

[fLuiD]

So you paid separate?

 

Is there any reason why you agreed to this lunch?

[stabilo]

He was quite in his right to pay seperately. She requested the meeting, regardless of him wanting her back, and during the awkward pause she could have offered to pay for them both. She didn't. The payment isn't even the issue here guys.

 

Winchester - I'm pleased for you. Were there any hints of a second meeting?

[Clarity]

He was quite in his right to pay seperately. She requested the meeting, regardless of him wanting her back, and during the awkward pause she could have offered to pay for them both. She didn't. The payment isn't even the issue here guys.

 

Winchester - I'm pleased for you. Were there any hints of a second meeting?

 

I'm not saying he was required to pay. Just saying that if he wanted her back, it would have been a good move.

[winchester3]

I just spent the last year getting over her. If by chance the opportunity came that we could try again, I'd probably go for it. I'm not holding my breath or expecting anything. A second meeting? I'm sure it will happen. A few months back she invited me to come visit her for a weekend. Didn't seem like a good idea at the time but this is a good first step.